Should I Quit my job and follow my dreams

Terriann - posted on 03/01/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




Let me start off by giving some background on my situation. I am a single mother of 2 beautiful boys ages 13 & 4. I have been working full time and going to school on and off part time for years…like forever!!! I love children and my goal is teach someday. I have never really enjoyed any of the work I have been doing for the last 13 years and I guess that only adds to the depression of not being able to have more time with my children. Basically I feel like I come to work and miss out on my boys for this??

At this point my little one is getting ready to go to Pre-K in the fall and my older son is looking into high schools (FYI he is ADHD and requires massive amounts of help with schoolwork). I feel so overwhelmed and wish desperately to have more time for these boys. In my dream world I would be able to go to school while they are in school and be there to pick to them up and help with all their needs. At this point I can’t because I am working full time. I have come up with ideas and ways that I could possibly work less like as a waitress for example 2-3 nights a week (which I have done before and my mother would watch the kids or my ex-husband.) Or I could start a childcare in my home and work on my degree at night (I am enrolled in an online BA program). Things would be tight but we could make it…things are tight now because of childcare costs and I am dead and tired when I get home from work….so what’s the difference right??

Here’s the issue…I have not pounded the pavement to find a part time job or placed any child care available ads because I don’t know if I have the nerve to make this drastic lifestyle change. Can I go after my dream of finishing school and actually being a bigger part of my children’s growing up?

I look at my 13 year old and realize that I missed so much, and then I look at my 4 year old and know that he will only be this way once. I feel guilty thinking of quitting my stable full time job with all the people in this world who would love to have it. But I hate it. I don’t want to be there to the point that I am depressed and calling out sick because of it. I feel a little funny when I tell my friends and family how I feel and that I want to quit. I guess what I have been looking for is at least one good friend to say “hey you can do this” and “don’t feel bad about it”.


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User - posted on 07/18/2013




Terriann, I could have written this same message. Actually, I just did on another forum. I know exactly how you feel.

It's been a few months since your post. What did you decide to do and how have things turned out for you?

Sarah - posted on 03/01/2013




I would do some research. Look into both or all your ideas/options. Find out what places are hiring and what your requirements would be. How much would you earn then make a budget with that income.....would it work? Also budget your time.....what would be your hours and what would be your hours with schooling and studying? For the day care idea find out what in home day cares around you are charging. How many kids would you need to have to make ends meet? What are your state requirements? Would you need to purchase things in order to get started? If so, how would that fit with your budget? What would be your hours.....a hint with day care you usually plan an extra 1/2 hour before people come and after people leave as prep and clean up. Also a thing to think about with daycare is how will your kids get to the events/school if this is during the time you are watching kids (more so an issue if you have more kids then spots in your vehicle). Basically plan things out. Find out what is needed, how would it work, can it work financially and time wise. This will help you feel more comfortable with taking that jump into something different.

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