Celina - posted on 03/10/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )
I have no idea where to begin. I will try to make this short and hopefully I can find some good advice. I am a single mother of two (a 10 and 8 year old). Two years ago I decided enough was enough and that I would take the donor of my children to court. I prefer to use the term due to his consistent absence in my children's life since the day they were born. You see, he was rarely in their life; probably saw them once a year but, always made an attempt to harass me for one thing or another. I thought if I took him to court my life would be more at peace and it would have been easier for a third party to tell us what was best for our children. I regret every moment of it! It has been an overwhelming and stressful experience. Until this day we have yet to settle the case due to him continuing with his drama and lies.
He would lie about me saying I was using drugs so, the judge ordered for a drug test which he had to pay for; he then refused. He always was saying I was abusive to my children and when that didn’t work he would lie about something else. He is constantly lying about his employment and stated he cannot afford to pay any child support. Meanwhile, I found out that last year he went to Paris for two weeks with his girlfriend and now he is engaged to her. This is while he is telling not only me but, the court that he was unable to provide any child support. Til this day he hasn’t paid a dime to my children. I currently have two attorneys because he hired attorneys; one for the case itself and the other for the appeal which he filed because he felt the judge was unfair about the back pay and current child support order which is $194 for both children per month. Rather, he is stating he should pay me $3.30 for both children per month. I sure do know how to pick them!
I am extremely frustrated and angry because I feel he is getting away with everything. The cost of my attorney fees has exceeded the back pay for child support so I ask myself, “What’s the whole point?” Why did I deicide to do this?” And just to let you know this isn’t even half of what I have been going through. I want to email him so bad but I am not sure if I should. Apparently, he doesn’t care about his actions and how it affects others. I want for this to end; I want my peace; I want to tell him how much damage he has caused not only me but my children as well. Should I or should I just keep this to myself continue with court and hope for this end one day.