Should I start training my 2 months old son to sleep through the night? Or it will come naturally?
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I think its a bit of both. It will come naturally when they are ready - but you can 'help' encourage it by keeping night time feeds quiet and dark. Alot of people used to laugh at me when I told them I had a 'night' routine for my bub from day 1 but she knew from an early age the difference between day and night - there was no playing at night but by the same token I didnt leave her to go hungry or crying without comforting her. You will find something that works for you andthenights will gradually get easier :)
Jonnah - posted on 07/24/2009
There is a book Baby Wise byGary Ezzo & Robert Buckmam that I highly recommend. I think that those that are reporting their baby slept through the night early (naturally) are very fortunate. This book provides useful information and my son was sleeping through the night at 5 weeks. The book runs about $11 at Walmart
my daughter is 7 weeks old and my partener and i have just been playing with her "big sleep" time until we found a time which suited her and us and allowed her to have the longest sleep she can.
we found 6pm was the best time for us. she will sleep for about 6 hours then wake for a quick feed. which will usually last her until the morning (i have accepted that 6-7am is wake up time now)!
we also have a strict bedtime routine... bath, feed and then bed.
we dont mess around with cuddles or bum pats. if she wakes the first two times we give her back her dummy, a quick belly rub then thats it. if she wakes a third time i usually top her up and pop her back in.
its not really training as such but just setting her up for when she is ready to sleep through.
Natanya - posted on 07/24/2009
I think that the research shows that you need to feed your new baby every 3 hours (or so). If you think about the size of his stomach (very, very little) and that he is only getting milk (either formula or breastmilk, I imagine) which wouldn't last long, I think it's a big ask of someone so little! I know some babies sleep through very early (my first one slept through from 3 months), however research also shows that it is very harmful to "train" such a small person, for many reasons. I think you should do some reading on the subject before trying anything new.
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Paula - posted on 05/22/2013
Ugh. I hate how people become so divided on this question. Some boards can be downright cruel! The answer always always always lies in the child. All the way through college and grad school that was always the answer- "it depends on the needs of the child" (I'm a child development specialist)
You've got your Romantical mothers who couldn't imagine their poor little baby in a big scary room all alone without comfort.
And the spectrum goes all the way to the Super OCD Tough It Out mom who closes the door and walks away.
And then there's everything in between. And there's lots to be said about all of it. We could honestly debate pros and cons for the rest of measureable time but by then most kids have either gotten the hang of the sleeping thing themselves or have gotten a little 'training' along the way by books, articles or pure parental exhaustion techniques.
Hope you find something that works for you... Good luck!
Personally, I think it will come naturally. I'm not a fan of sleep training, and my son started sleeping through the night and self-soothing without me needing to teach him. However, if you do choose to do sleep-training, 2 months is too early. I think the usual recommendation is to start around 6 months.
Belinda - posted on 07/24/2009
I personally think it's a little too early to start training such a young baby to sleep through. I was told by my doctor that nutritionally speaking babies need night feeds until the age of 6months - obviously there are some exceptions to this rule as some babes sleep through before then - but I was told not to try and make your baby sleep through without feeds before 6 months as they really do need them. I think as long as each month your baby is sleeping for slightly longer periods between feeds at night and that continues, that sleeping through will happen naturally. It really only becomes a problem if bub starts waking more and more frequently throughout the night as he gets older, rather than going for longer stretches. My girl is 11 months old and still doesn't sleep through most nights, my baby health nurse told me some don't sleep through til 18months or so, so I reckon just give your little one until the age of 6 months and reasses then.
Ashley - posted on 07/24/2009
It was just after my son turned 2 months old that he started sleeping through the night. I don't think it's good to train them at such a young age... you should still be going by his cues. He is still small and needs to eat more often than older children... which is why he is still waking up. Once he starts eating cereal (4 months) and baby food (about 6 months)... you'll probably have more luck w/sleeping if you don't have it before then. :)
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