should i take him to court

Debra - posted on 09/10/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 7 months old and I am not with her father however I have never denied her father access, I was allowing him to come to the house but he would start hitting on( even 2 days after giving birth) I start to get uncomfortable being around him and would dread him coming over so i decided to bane him from the house and would meet him in town so he could still see his daughter he did it once the blow up in my face afterwards saying I was denying him access and demanding to come up the house, to have her on his own(he lives over 3 hrs away and wanted to take her home) and to see her 3 days in a row a week I explained it was to much as at the time she was only 4 months so it wasn't possible then when we went away for my grandfathers and my birthday which also happens to be my grandperants wedding anniversary(my grandfather has mnd and given only 3 yrs to live) he blow up again saying i was denying him access by going away for a couple off weeks luckly when i came home some work was being done on the house so I said he couldn't come up cause off the workers and been able to but him off coming to the house for a while now but now his turning around demanding to be at the house and to be here for 2 days every week i've said no and his saying he doesn't want to meet up in townso i've said it'll have to be a contact centre exept they only do every other saturday for two hours now i know his going to start and rufuse do it they say if he does i have to take him to court should i just take him any way and have it sorted as I want him to see his daughter(forgot to mention he has tryed to emotionally blackmail through my daughter and to stop maintence before and worried he will do this again also when he does see my daughter he refuses to hold her properlly, will only hold her at arms length for about two minutes and the rest off the time his on his phone to his current thing and have held my tounge about this)

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/10/2013

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Here's the deal. If you have a court order in place for support and visitation (which are separate things, and will be handled separately), he could threaten all he wants, but would be held in contempt of court if he doesn't abide by the court order.

Without an order, he doesn't have to pay a dime, regardless.

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Debra - posted on 09/10/2013

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going to his just threatened to stop maintenance unless i change my mind on the phone to the csa now i'm fed up off all off it

Debra - posted on 09/10/2013

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done paternity test as he tryed saying she wasn't his which was really funny when the results came through and proved I was right

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/10/2013

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You should have taken this through the courts from the beginning. Get paternity established beyond a doubt. Then get custody/visitation and support set up now.

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