Should I take my daughter's father to court?

Becca - posted on 07/23/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter is going to be 3 soon and her father and I have not been together since she turned 1. I have been trying to be fair to him and let him be a part of her life because kids need their dads but he does not act like he wants her nor is he capable of taking care of her. She loves her time with him but those times are few and far between. I offer him more time and he doesn't take it and he always wants her late and picked up early so I really don't see the point in having her at all. Plus he does not keep her clean or well fed despite all the times I've talked to him about it and she always gets sick when she's been with him. He even has put her life at risk and tried to hide it from me. He fell asleep at the wheel and had a car accident with her in the car that totaled his car and knocked out power for that area and he never told me about it I found out by googling his name and the police report came up. I hate seeing my daughter sad when I tell her she can't go to daddy's house and I don't want him hurting her anymore. I was thinking about taking him for custody since he refuses to sign over his rights. What should I do? I don't want to take him away from her because she loves him but all he does is hurt her. Please help.

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Dove - posted on 07/24/2012

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You NEED a court order spelling out custody and visitation. In an ideal situation, the parents come up with their own agreement and just get it notarized by the courts (to make it legal). If the situation isn't ideal... you need to get a lawyer and go to court.

Your daughter has a right to a relationship with her father, but she also has a right to be SAFE with her father. If she's not... you need to do everything in your power to make that happen. Perhaps the accident would be enough for you to request supervised visitations....

My advice... get a lawyer and go to court. Good luck!

Becca - posted on 07/23/2012

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He's 25 and only cares about himself. He will tell me he's working overtime to avoid having her then I find out later that he wasn't working. But when I talk to him he acts like he's dad of the year and just lies some more. He really only takes her when he has family events my guess is to make himself look like a good dad to them.

Stephanie - posted on 07/23/2012

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i would just tell him too bad you cant have her enless you smarten up, theres nothing he can do about that tell him to visit at your place or at the closest park because you worrie. im guessing hes young? my sons fathers the same way, but my son is only 3 months.

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