Should I talk to my opposite sex kids together about sex and puberty?

Maureen - posted on 08/05/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




They are only 15 months apart and have a very close friendship. My son (9) has begun to grow pubic hair. I'm worried that they may be talking to each other and/or other kids and getting wrong information, so I know it is time.
The articles i'm reading all seem to say you should already have had an openness with them in this area....but WTF who is talking about sex & puberty with 5 year olds!?! When does that come up!? Although they know basic things ie sex is how babies are made... babies come out birth canals, as questions have come up we have answered them, both of the questions!!
My husband and I have already discussed talking to them. We decided that I am better suited for the biological explanations now while they are young, before the pressures and hormones are in overdrive. And that as the children grow, based upon everyone's personalities he would be better at talking to our daughter about avoiding the peer pressure of the teen years and I would be more suited for our son. In fact, that is how I learned of my son's pubic hair... he had chaffing on his thighs and told his father it was private and needed me to help him!!


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Michelle - posted on 08/06/2012




I openly talk to my son about puberty and sex he is 11 and has gone through two years of sex education at school and we discuss what he has learned and I answer all of his questions. He learned about the birds and bees at 8 because I got pregnant with his sister so it was an ideal time to talk about where babies come from. Just sit them down and talk to them about the changes your older sons body is going through and what it means. Answer any questions they have and then move forward it really isn't that bad.

Laci - posted on 08/06/2012




I say yes! Be as open as their ages can understand! I have a 13 year old boy and I am open to all his questions and always have been. would rather him hear the truth from me than a lie from his friends..I remember being a teen and hearing you can't get pregnant your first time. I want him to be informed and make life decisions on truth not guess...

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