should I tell my son where is dad is

Kimberly - posted on 08/26/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




My 18 yr old son has never met his real dad, he has only seen pics of him plus a few letters from jail about 13 yrs ago. Throughout his life my son has only asked about him a few times. I recently had contact with an old friend who sees my sons dad occasionally. My husband wants me to leave him alone and not tell my son however I feel like I would be a bad mother if I didn't at least let my son know there might be a opportunity to talk or meet his dad. Before I would bring this up to my son I think it best for me to talk to his real dad first and see if he is even interested.
I wanna do the right thing.


Amanda - posted on 08/26/2013




I think I wouldn't mention it until your son asks again, but that's because I wouldn't want to stir up drama. Plus it's easier to say that when I'm not facing the decision myself.

Either way... I wouldn't contact the father first, but I would say to your son, "here's his contact info, but I haven't been in touch. I don't know how he will react if you contact him. You might be disappointed."

Good luck! That's a tough one.

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