Kylie - posted on 11/18/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )
I am currently almost 32 weeks pregnant. I found out at about 4 weeks and immediately told the guy. He has known the whole time. We never really dated but, we were friends. He made it very clear that he didn't want me to keep our child but, i decided i was old enough to take responsibility for her even if he didn't want to. I gave him the option to walk away and he said no, he wouldn't do that.
He has not made anything easy about this situation. He is 25 has a big boy job as a cop in our county none the less. He only came to one ultrasound never texts or asks how we are doing. He has come over twice to talk but, is only ever concerned on not paying me child support and demanding he now wants 50/50 of our daughter. I have no intention on keeping his daughter from him, I would like him and his family involved, our daughter deserves that!
My issue is, he is not ever around or cares how we are doing or if he can do anything. He found out when i was 4 weeks. He then 3 months later went out and got a girlfriend and didnt tell her he had a child on the way. She found out through mutual friends 3 months into their relationship that i was pregnant. He also has not yet told his family. This will be the first grandchild on their side and I have asked him to tell them multiple times, even postponed announcing i was pregnant because he said he was planning on telling them and asked me to wait another week...and I did. Shockingly he never did tell them. Now im expecting in a couple months and I don't feel its right that his family doesn't know and doesn't have the option of deciding if they want to be around for their grandchild or not.
I do want them to know. I don't need their money, i have a very supportive family and help when i need it. I just don't think its right for them to not know. Any suggestions?