Rhonda - posted on 05/15/2012 ( 206 moms have responded )
My husband has a drinking problem. He'll drink at least a 6 - 12 pack every night and follow that up with hard liquor if he has not passed out. Last night I found him in my 2 year old sons bedroom naked laying in front of a fan touching himself. When I told him to get out, he became abusive and threatened to break my nose, he twisted my wrist and pushed me to the floor. He told me that since our son was asleep it was not a big deal. My four year old (from a previous marriage) is possibly being sexually abused. He's showing signs of abuse; naturally I'm tying these things together now. I've completely quit drinking (even a glass with dinner) to avoid any accusations of being drunk which is his favorite thing to say to me when he's drunk. Once he sobered up this morning he told me that I'm crazy, an idiot, stupid, etc. for accusing him of abusing our children and has turned the whole thing around on me acting like I'm the one with the problem. We've only been married for 2 years and I knew he drank a lot but it has escalated to much that it's out of control now. He literally passes out every single night from drinking, sometimes he gets abusive before that point, sometimes it's peaceful and he just passes out. He's never hit me but he has a military background and will squeeze nerve points on me to the point that I'm in tears and will threaten to hit me even raising his fist over me. I know this is a lot and you all must think I'm crazy for not leaving him but I just want our relationship to work. My kids love him, his son loves him. If my 4 year old is being abused by him, he doesn't realize it's wrong because he shows no fear/distance toward him but relishes in his attention on a day to day basis. He won't tell me that anything is wrong but I know in my heart that he's being abused by somebody. I know we need counseling but he will not go; he will not go to AA either. I don't know what to do other than kick him out of the house which will financially have it's own repercussions. Should I try to save this thing?