should i wake him up at night to feed him?

Carly - posted on 02/01/2009 ( 37 moms have responded )

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hi there I have a four month old baby if he wants to sleep through the night can i let him or will he get dehydrated? also if he is sucking his fists at night does this mean he is hungry?

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Stifler's - posted on 03/30/2011

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I would never wake a sleeping baby hahaha. Not even at daytime. But that's just me. If he's feeding well at daytime etc. he should be fine to sleep as long as he wants at night.

Laura - posted on 03/30/2011

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Sucking on his fist is a comfort reaction, not a feeding cue. Your boy will let you know when he is hungry, so if he's sleeping through the night, enjoy it!

Agnes - posted on 02/04/2009

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Don't wake him up for that. let him sleep as long as he wants in the nigth !!



 

Carly - posted on 02/04/2009

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wow thanks for all the responses, and its quite funny really to read a whole list of people saying let him sleep. I also totally agree with Samantha I was worried that if i feed him too often then he will never let himself get fully full. well i went to the doctor today and you may be unsurprised to know that he said the same thing! so i am going to let him sleep, oh by the way the cute thing has a sense of humour cos i decided to let him sleep last night from 11 when he settled and he decided that 4am was morning and boy was he awake lol! anyway thanks again i thiink i have enough reponses to this post now i get it let the baby speak, my husband will be relieved cos my alarm going off in the middle of the night has been far more annoying than the baby crying lol. thanks again everyone

Samantha - posted on 02/03/2009

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let him sleep!!!! if he's hungry he'll wake up. when i took my first son home, the doctors told me to feed him (even if he was sleeping, because i was breastfeeding) every 2 hrs. the only thing that did was TRAIN him to WAKE up every 2 hrs! which meant, he basically never slept!..and neither did I. lol that was the biggest mistake i made. don't wake a sleeping baby.



also, they suck to soothe themselves. my son's 7 months now, and he still does it in his sleep. it's actually pretty cute.

Brandi - posted on 02/03/2009

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I couldn't agree more with the older ladies. I was the EXACT same way when i breastfed my son. And I was quick to learn to never wake a sleeping baby! As long as he is content in his bed leave him be until he wakes up and lets you know he's hungry =)

Stephanie - posted on 02/03/2009

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I totally understand your worry here. My son - our first - is a week away from turning four months old, and I have just learned to stop waking him up to feed. I think the doctors are right to have us wake babies in the beginning to feed - because a lot of newborns are so drowsy, they may not wake to feed even if they are hungry. This was never the case for me - but I do understand where the doctors are coming from. But by four months or 16 pounds, a lot of the "helping baby to sleep" books I have been reading say that these babies are developed enough to sleep 6-8 hour stretches without incident. Again, only as long as your child is healthy and thriving should you allow this, but really, we moms deserve our sleep! The first time our son went six hours, i woke up in pain - I am nursing - and the baby still slept! I was tempted to wake him, but sleep begets sleep! So, enjoy it and rest up for teething and other times when he won't be able to sleep through the night!

Sandy - posted on 02/03/2009

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Quoting Carly:

should i wake him up at night to feed him?

hi there I have a four month old baby if he wants to sleep through the night can i let him or will he get dehydrated? also if he is sucking his fists at night does this mean he is hungry?


i  am a mom of 7 and u can let them sleep wont hurt him at all

Tegan - posted on 02/03/2009

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Consider yourself lucky! Definitely let him sleep. He'll wake up when he's hungry!

Carolyn - posted on 02/03/2009

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I agree with everyone else, let him sleep, it'll do both him and you some good.  My son is now 19 months old and been sleeping through the night since he was 2.5 months old.  Some people say you should try and have your baby on a schedule for eating, but they will eat when they are hungry, and he will wake up and let you know.

Carolyn - posted on 02/03/2009

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I agree with everyone else, let him sleep, it'll do both him and you some good.  My son is now 19 months old and been sleeping through the night since he was 2.5 months old.  Some people say you should try and have your baby on a schedule for eating, but they will eat when they are hungry, and he will wake up and let you know.

Lucy - posted on 02/03/2009

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Quoting Carly:

should i wake him up at night to feed him?

hi there I have a four month old baby if he wants to sleep through the night can i let him or will he get dehydrated? also if he is sucking his fists at night does this mean he is hungry?



if hes not crying ,let him sleep my boy started sleeping through the night at 3 months,he will let u know when hes hungry

Deirdre - posted on 02/03/2009

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Never wake a sleeping baby.  By 4 months they can go all  nght w/out a feeding.

Carly - posted on 02/03/2009

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thank you so much for all of your advice i really appreciate it being a new mum, in response to the health visitor suggestion, unfortunately i am living in hong kong and there is no system like that here but we are going to the doc tomorrow for routine injections so i am going to double check with him,. thanks again you are helping to put my mind at ease

Jessica - posted on 02/03/2009

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I used to wake my daughter up until 1 month, but then i left her and she was sleeping better and also longer. Best thing is just leave him, if his hungry he will wake up and let you know! I dont think his sucking on his fist due to being hungry its more like a comfort thing, like a dummy.

Julie - posted on 02/03/2009

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hiya i've had 5 children and have never woken any through the nite to feed them, youre little boy will let u no if he's hungry and suking his fists might be a sign of teething good luck x

Karen - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hi, I have had two kids. One who wouldn't sleep through the night till he was three and the other who start at two months. Both the children are now healthy and happy. With my younger one, the one who slept through the night at two months only woke up when she was hungry. I would say that you need all the sleep you can get. He knows when he is hungry. He will start waking up again through the night as he grows. Don't rush him. If he sleeps let him sleep. Watch his out put in when he is awake that should tell you if he is getting enough fluid. But I personally don't think anything wrong with letting children tell you when they are hungry. If he suck on his fist try a soother. Although you might encounter some problems later, they are easier to get ride of then his thumb when he finds that.

Krisanthy - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hello, just let the child sleep. Dont worry, if his hungry he will wake for a feed. his obviously getting enough during the day.

Kylie - posted on 02/03/2009

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These questions should be asked to your child health nurse, really - she would be the best one to know the situation - is your child underweight? does he wake too early? sucking his fists may just be a comfort thing. I had one that did that too, if they are hungry, they will wake up (Let sleeping babies lie, as my mother and nanna always advised me!) Does he re-settle after a feed easily? Try reading Baby Love - its a little instruction manual for new mothers that can offer some good advice on what to do .

Siobhan - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hi there, beleive me if he was hungry he would let you know.  definately a good thing if he is sleeping through to night now as when he starts to teeth his sleeping pattern might be disrupted. He's just sucking his fist for comfort..  hope this helps.x

Jodie - posted on 02/03/2009

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i used to feed my son right before i went to bed while he is still asleep then he would sleep right through untl 7.30-8am. I found that he just latched on and was asleep while feeding

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I have a 4 month old as well he is my second. To your response he'll wake up on his own if he's hungry and the sucking his fists my boy does it to and he's teething so maybe just check that.

Carly - posted on 02/03/2009

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thanks for the responses, well i let him sleep and he slept from 8 till 3.30am, then fed for a long time and went straight back to sleep till 7am 9yes i am breastfeeding). i am very proud of him but it was very upsetting hearing him cry cos he was hungry as he hasn't cried through the night in ages (cos i was waking him up).

Carrie - posted on 02/02/2009

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let him sleep when he is hungry trust me he will let you know, and dont worry that he will be missing out cause he will make up for it during the day, enjoy your nights sleep. if he is sucking on his fists this is more than likely to be for comfort if he is unsettled and crying then thats different. Are you breast feeding?

Carly - posted on 02/02/2009

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thanks so much for all your responses, my husband says the same thing, but cos he was almost a month early and last time we saw the doc he said we should wake him but that was two months ago and he is eating well. ok will try tonight, would be nice to get a full nights sleep. lol

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a four month old can sleep thru the night, yes. as long as he isn't having any trouble/is thriving and growing normally...let him sleep. i woke my first to eat, sometimes woke my second to eat, but by the third i would never! sucking his fists may be an early sign of hunger. but I would expect him to then start crying if he wanted to eat. he may be more tired than hungry, so even tho he wakes enough to suck his fist, he then just falls back to sleep.

Trevelyn - posted on 02/01/2009

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As a mother of two, I agree with everyone above! Sleep, Sleep, Sleep. There will be many times in the near future when he will not sleep through the night. If he is hungry he will wake up and let you know. He has most likely at 4 months gotten pass the having the eat every few hours.  Plus if you are giving him rice before he goes to bed, it keeps his fuller longer and therefore elminates the need to midnight feed.

Nichole - posted on 02/01/2009

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Everyone says sleep and I agree :) Believe me feel blessed, there are many babies out there that don't sleep through the night at 4 months

Heather - posted on 02/01/2009

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Congrats on being a Mom =) I agree. I have 4 children and I never once woke them to eat. It drives me crazy when doctors (not all but some) will tell you to wake them every so many hours to make sure they are eating enough. Your baby will let you know when he is hungry, trust me. Enjoy the blessing, because not every one is so lucky.

Amber - posted on 02/01/2009

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SLEEP SLEEP SLEEP Let him sleep.  Take advantage of it now while you can.  He'll be ok and trust me...  He'll let you know when he's hungry.

Amber - posted on 02/01/2009

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SLEEP SLEEP SLEEP Let him sleep.  Take advantage of it now while you can.  He'll be ok and trust me...  He'll let you know when he's hungry.

Tina - posted on 02/01/2009

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I agree..let him sleep. Sucking he fists, thumb or a pacificer is a natural soothing action that babies do to relax and calm themselves.

Dreama - posted on 02/01/2009

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Absolutely not!! All three of mine were sleeping through the night within 3 months. The secret is....Keep him awake until your bedtime, then fill his stomach full of cereal followed by a little formula. He will sleep like a baby until about daylight! You will be rested and ready to tend to his needs all day. Waking him up to feed him is crazy!!!!!!

Corinne - posted on 02/01/2009

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My daughter was sleeping all thru the night by 1month. I never dared to wake her. If she was hungry she let me know.



She still sleeps like a teenager and shes only 13months.

Ginette - posted on 02/01/2009

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I agree! Let him sleep! Enjoy the hours of rest you can get. When he is hungry he will let you know!

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Let your sweet baby sleep.. I am a mommy of three, trust me when he is hungry he will let you know... Don't worry get rest your one of the few that have this blessing...

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