Should my 14 year old get to stay up till ten

Lotty - posted on 03/20/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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She has to wake up at 6:30 for school and I think tn is late, but she says all her friends stay up till at least ten, so she should to

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Jodi - posted on 03/21/2016

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And I HATE the "my friends do" comment. I'm a teacher, and seriously, we had two 13 year old students sleeping in sick bay today because they didn't sleep enough at home, and this is a regular occurrence for these children. SOOO many teens seem to be setting their own bedtime and they are coming to school exhausted and not in a place to learn anything. The ones who are in class and learning best are the ones who have schedules at home set by their parents that focus on the needs of the child.

Maria - posted on 03/21/2016

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She needs at the least 9 hours of sleep, so I would set time around 9:00 to start to get ready for bed and lights out no later than 9:30. If she is sleepy during the day you should move up bedtime to 9:00 or 8:30, it's common for many teenagers need 10 hours sleeping. Anyway the "my friends do" topic is so manipulative, it could be totally fake.

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Jodi - posted on 03/21/2016

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That doesn't sound like enough sleep for a teen waking at 6:30am. However, I would be going with the "you need to get yourself out of bed in the mornings". If you have to wake her in the morning, tell her that is a sign that 10pm is too late.

I used to do this with my son at this age. If I was waking him in the mornings, his bedtime would move back. His bedtime was 9:30 right through until he was about 16. His wake up time was also 6:30.

Michelle - posted on 03/21/2016

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We have told our 14yo that he can set his own bedtime when I don't have to call him 4 times in the morning, needless to say, his bedtime is still the same as the other children.

Dove - posted on 03/20/2016

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All that being said... they don't sleep well any way, so when/if they sleep is totally up to them and has been for a few years. I just keep bugging them and recommending that they try and sleep cuz I know what it feels like to never be rested. THEY do fine.

Dove - posted on 03/20/2016

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That isn't enough sleep on a regular basis. My girls are 14 and stay up way too late way too often because youth group gets them home too late. Nights that they are home and have school the next day (wake up at 5:40)... lights are out at 8:30. I wish it were earlier, but that's just not feasible.

Sarah - posted on 03/20/2016

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The AAP and CDC recommend 8.5 or more hours of sleep at night for teens. If she is alert during the day and managing to get up for school, let her manage her sleep hours. Teens by nature have a change in their circadian rhythm, staying up an average of 2 hours later than in the pre-teen years and sleeping in 2-3 hours later in the AM.

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