Kerry - posted on 01/05/2012 ( 211 moms have responded )
my 5yr old son hasnt seen his dad for 2yrs now. I split with his dad after years of violence got the better off me and i finally found the strength and courage to stand up to him. That was 6months after i had my son, he then very shortly after i split with him was arrested at my home and sent down for sexual assult on two minor girls (i knew nothing about this until he was arrested!) apparently it happened when he was a minor himself.
Long story short, the relationship was violent, forced sex (how son came about), locked away from friends, he played mind games, he was a compulsive liar...(for example he told me his dad had died so i wouldnt split with him) but a week after he was sent down his dead dad called from the grave! not dead at all.
after he was released from prison i wasnt sure about him seeing his son, hes violent towards me but not with his son...i let him see his son while supervised by my mum in her home. However my son then 2yrs began getting aggesive towards me, his dad told him to punch me in the face and my son did, dad stood there laughing. I also learned my son was being pyshically restrained by his dad when he was playing up so i stopped him seeing him. i said he needed to sort himself out and be a proper dad or not see him.
Now 5yrs old and my sons not seen his dad for over 2yrs, its taken me and my current partner 1yr to sort out my sons aggesive behaviour and hes now a settled and loving little boy, but should he see his dad? hes settled with another girl, got another kid on the way, still doesnt work though, never has! ive heard hes going to try and get access to his son once hes had his new baby. do i let him see his son? do i risk it?