Should Retired Grandparents Receive Paid Holidays & Vacations?

Jessica - posted on 03/14/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I pay my mom for watching my sons after school until I get home from work. She is retired and I pay her an hourly wage (equivalent to cost of daycare) as well as mileage to compensate her for the gas to drive from her house to ours and the short distance to/from school. My husband & I have both taken pay cuts, and have huge fertility debt looming over our heads, but we always pay my mom for the after-school care of our boys. There was never an agreement to pay for days off or vacations. At one point, when we had a holiday off and she was not watching the kids, we went ahead and paid her the usual amount to be nice. Another time we paid her during a week we were on vacation and she was not watching the kids. The problem is my aunt (who was a licensed daycare provider watching strangers & paying taxes on the income) has convinced her she's entitled to paid holidays off as well as being paid for the week when we're on vacation with the kids. I appreciate her help a couple of hours a day, but she is their grandma, not a daycare facility. When I've mentioned this to co-workers, they were shocked that we ever paid her for days she DIDN'T watch the kids (and can't believe she's asking for it). She also hasn't claimed any of this income. Thoughts?

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Sarah - posted on 03/15/2016

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I would agree with Evelyn that your post is leaving out some information. Did you have a conversation with grandma about vacation and holiday pay? If I was paid and then was not paid for it then I would be confused. Payment should always be discussed beforehand so everyone knows what is expected and how things are being done. As far as talking with others.....that surprises me. If you had them at a daycare setting then you would be paying the daycare holiday and vacation pay, as you must pay no matter if they are there or not or if the center is closed or not. So really in in other situation that would be expected. As for your situation you need to sit down with grandma and discuss things. As she may also feel taken advantage of for not being paid when in any other situation you would need to pay.

Ev - posted on 03/15/2016

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""" At one point, when we had a holiday off and she was NOT watching the kids, we went ahead and paid her the usual weekly rate to be nice, (even though she watched them one day less). Another time we paid her during a week we were on vacation and she was NOT watching the kids. The problem is not she seems to feel entitled to paid holidays off as well as being paid for the week when we're on vacation with the kids. I appreciate her help a couple of hours a day, but I feel like I'm being taken advantage of."""
---No where in this portion of the post do you even say she has asked for her holiday/vacations to be paid when not watching the kids so how is that taking advantage of you? She is basically watching the kids 10 hours a week plus gas to pick them up after school for most of the school year. You said you went ahead and paid her yourself and no where did it say she asked.

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