Jessica - posted on 03/14/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )
I pay my mom for watching my sons after school until I get home from work. She is retired and I pay her an hourly wage (equivalent to cost of daycare) as well as mileage to compensate her for the gas to drive from her house to ours and the short distance to/from school. My husband & I have both taken pay cuts, and have huge fertility debt looming over our heads, but we always pay my mom for the after-school care of our boys. There was never an agreement to pay for days off or vacations. At one point, when we had a holiday off and she was not watching the kids, we went ahead and paid her the usual amount to be nice. Another time we paid her during a week we were on vacation and she was not watching the kids. The problem is my aunt (who was a licensed daycare provider watching strangers & paying taxes on the income) has convinced her she's entitled to paid holidays off as well as being paid for the week when we're on vacation with the kids. I appreciate her help a couple of hours a day, but she is their grandma, not a daycare facility. When I've mentioned this to co-workers, they were shocked that we ever paid her for days she DIDN'T watch the kids (and can't believe she's asking for it). She also hasn't claimed any of this income. Thoughts?