Raine - posted on 03/09/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )
I have 2 children ages 14(son) and 17(daughter).
I am a liberated parent, and people have told me that I give my kids ''too much'' freedom.
For example- I allow my children to date, have parties at my house(no alcohol) their curfews are 10 p.m. on school nights and 11:30 on weekends. They don't have bedtimes. I allow them to make their own decisions, while guiding them of course. I am not a strict parent or the type of parent that says ''no!'' all of the time. I give them room to make mistakes, grow, and find their own way. Teens are in the process of becoming adults and if mature enough, they should be able to make adult decisions. I was raised in a strict home, by very old fashioned parents. I wasn't allowed to date at all until I was 18, I had a curfew until I moved out, which was 20. I also wasn't allowed to go anywhere without an adult until I was 18. And I felt like I was missing out on all the fun of being a teenager. I don't want to do the same to my kids. All teens are not irresponsible, nor do they need to be watched over 24/7. They should have freedom and independence with boundaries. In my opinion, they are not children, but developed human beings. They WILL make their own decisions at some point. Whether they are 14, 18, or 21. There isn't a certain age where you mature and become adult like. I am around teens all of the time and I see 14-16 year old's that are more mature and well spoken than some 30-something year old's. It just depends on the person. But age doesn't determine whether you are ready to make your own decisions and be on your own. Maturity does.