should the SO be helping with the bills

Amanda - posted on 09/17/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )

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Needing some advice on a blended family! My boyfriend and I have a baby together and he has two other children and I have two children. We live in my home that I bought on my own. His children are 18 and 16 and mine are 14 and 11 and our baby is 4 months old. We have been recently having issues because I have a problem with him giving his kids money when he doesn't help pay any of the bills around the home. He will buy food once in a while. I know he pays child support and carries health insurance on his two boys and that doesn't leave him much. His oldest son has been wanting to live with us and I told my boyfriend that he would have to get a second job or figure out some way to start helping with the bills. I can't do it all by myself anymore its is draining me! Its hard to be the only one that is responsible for the bills when there is another adult that should be held responsible for them as well. I am tired of fighting with him he never asks if I have enough money to pay bills when it comes time to pay the sitter I have to go ask him for his half he never asks what his part is or offers to give it to me unless I ask for it. Shouldn't he worry about helping to pay the bills and making sure our home has food and stuff before he goes and gives those boys money to run around for the weekend? I am at a loss and just don't really know what to do. Its to the point that I want to tell him to find somewhere else to live hec I would get more out of him if he paid child support. Its horrible to think that way but I can't get him to see that it is his responsibility to pay for his part and his kids part and I pay for my kids and my part.

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