Should we add a new baby to our blended family and how to talk to hubby?

Ashley - posted on 11/15/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am 25, my husband is 42. My husband and I have a blended family. He has one child that is 20 and I have a 3 and a 6 year old. When we first got married I had no thoughts of wanting another child but as time has gone on I realized that I do. He has had is vasectomy done for 7 years, I have talked to him a little bit about it. He says that he would do anything that I want but that although its a nice thought he is leaning more on the not too side. I am torn. Im not sure it is fair to ask of him, and I only want too if he wants a baby the same as I do. My fear is that I say nothing and we regret it later. I know if we did it would be a perfect completion of our family. Is this a good idea or should I forget it? How do I continue talking to him about it? Is it even fair to ask of him?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/15/2011

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Wow, that is a tough one. Just think, if you guys do it now, and it takes you 2 years, you will be a spring chicken of 27. He will be middle aged 44. When your kid is graduating highschool, you would be about 45, your husband will be 62. When your child is 25,, your husband will be 69. I think you can see where this is going, and I understand fully why your husband would not want to start over. On the other hand, I understand you wanting a child with the man you love. But, you have 2 children to raise together. Love and family don't always have to be the same blood.

Ashley - posted on 11/15/2011

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We have talked about it a little, I told him that I think I do and we actually got as far as finding a reverdal Dr. but before I scheduled the appointment I ask him how he really felt; because I knew that i was so excited that i may not have been hearing what he was really saying. He said he would do absolutly anything I wanted but he was leaning more towards no. I just dont feel like it will be the same if he isnt as on board as I am. He main eason for not weanting to is he feels like he is too old to start over. Expecially because it would be probably a year or two before we could relisticly have a baby.

Sharlene - posted on 11/15/2011

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Try the large blended faily community as well for advise, I have a large blended family theres 7 kids and still counting .Have you sat down with your husband and told him how you feel about having a baby together ?????

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