Carole - posted on 09/01/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )
My step-daughter has an arm issue that has been going on for weeks. It is swollen, very painful and at one point had a lump in it. The doctors have ruled out the really "scary" stuff, but the new verdict is "We don't really know what's wrong with it, so maybe she should just go to therapy." I'm not a mother. Maybe if I had spent the kids' early years in a doctor's office then I would know this response is acceptable. But to me, it sounds like we're treating something when we don't even know what we're treating. What would you do? She cannot participate in any of her school activities because of the pain and I feel like we should be taking her to get another opinion. Her father would probably agree, and I don't think her mother would object but both think I worry about the kids too much.
This is not a bone of contention among the 3 of us. I'm trying to determine if I need to push for another doctor's visit. I'm almost always the one who pushes until this type of thing happens and I don't want to get out of line. However, I hate that she's hurting and I don't feel like we have any real answers at all. Do I just "not understand bc I'm not their mom?"