should we have another baby or should i choose a career instead?

Rachael - posted on 08/16/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




my sons 2 and a half and me and my partner would love a wee girl, should i wait and start a career or hold it off and have my kids closer together... ? I wouldnt like a big age gap between kids but i would also like us to have more money coming in, but i dont know what would make us happier.


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Merry - posted on 08/16/2011




If it were me I'd wait on the career. But everyone is sooooo different I couldn't say what's best for you.
But I bet you know what you want already, deep down, what's stopping you?

Tyrae - posted on 08/16/2011




I am having this exact same problem. I don't know whether to chose to try for another child, or to go back to school now and get my career started. It's a very difficult decision. But if I were to wait it would be 5+ years before I go back to school because I would wait until at least one of my kids were in kindergarten (my daugther is only 9 months right now). That and if we wait till after I go back to school to start trying for another one, my fiance will be in his 30's for his second child and he doesn't like the idea of that.

I think in the long run waiting for the career will be best for us, I just don't know if I'm mentally ready for another child yet :(

Krista - posted on 08/16/2011




Nobody can really make the decision for you -- it's something that you have to sit down with your partner and decide.

However, when I THINK that I can't decide, this trick helps:

Imagine that EVERY woman on here is telling you to try for another baby now. How do you feel -- relieved or disappointed?

Now imagine that after all this, ONE woman comes on here and tells you to wait and focus on your career. How does that make you feel?

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