Should we repeat Kindergarten or move on to 1st grade?

Destiny - posted on 05/04/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

9

15

0

My youngest son's teacher and I had a conference Thursday regarding his end of the year benchmark testing. Just a little background, he is ADHD (hyperactive & impulsive type) and at the beginning of the year was considered "at risk" in both reading and math. Now at the end of the year testing is is only "at risk" at math.
Many of the things on the test he did not do well on, show as Proficient on his report cards, so we know he does know some of the information. Her biggest concerns were to count to 100 he needs redirection (3-4 times) and we are having difficulties with handwriting. He shows multiple signs and there is a family history of dyslexia. If he repeats kindergarten it will be the same instruction again and "hopefully" he'll get the math portion of things better, however if he moves on to first grade and is still behind there are extra help programs he can't get as a kindergarten student. His brother is in 1st grade and he's VERY aware that he's supposed to in 1st grade next year, so we're worried also about the emotional impact of holding in back, so, as a parent, what do you do?

5 Comments

View replies by

Cheryl - posted on 05/21/2014

1

0

0

I am in this circumstance now. My oldest son is in kindergarten. His is OCD and possibly ADHD. His psychiatrist recommends him to repeat kindergarten, however his teacher and principal both feel that he would do best moving up to grade 1 with his peers. He has difficulty with letter recognition and is weak with math and writing. He shows signs of, and has family history of, dyslexia as we'll. the principals point of view is that the learning difficulties will follow with the same type of instruction in kindergarten again, and he would do best to have supports in place to assist him to go forward without risking affects on his social relationships and esteem. What decision did you make? How is your son coping?

Destiny - posted on 05/06/2012

9

15

0

I appreciate your help so much. Confidence wise he's a great kid. He wants to do everything himself..he's very independent and when he can't figure it out he wants you to show him until he does get it. He's a late April baby so not quite a summer baby but close. He gets mad at me sometimes when I start to help him sound out bigger words (that are way bigger than 1st grade level) because he can do it himself. I think his stubbornness although hard to deal with as a parent may be his greatest asset where learning is concerned. The main time we start to see what the school calls "immaturity" issues is when his ADHD meds need a little tweek. He is hyperactive/impulsive so with them not working the way they're supposed to he gets goofy at times. I just have to stay on my ballgame with his teachers because he does NOT take meds at home so I can't tell that they are/aren't working correctly, I have to leave that to the teacher to help me judge and that will be a battle I'll fight from here until whenever. I'm hoping to have him off of them by middle school if he is able. The doctor says some kids are, some kids aren't.

Jenn - posted on 05/06/2012

675

1

47

How is he otherwise? If math is the only issue, I would pass him through and get the extra math assistance. If there is any immaturity or social development issue, I might consider a repeat. If he can get the help he needs, along with your assistance, in first grade and beyond (gotta think long term) then he will most likely be fine to move up.

My daughter had a confidence issue. Rather than try, she would give up, complain of a tummy ache, etc. She is a summer birthday so it wasn't a big deal to hold her back in preschool. She is in first now, age 7, making straight A's and reading on a 3rd grade level. Math is simply a difficult concept for many people. If that is your sons only outstanding issue' he should do just fine in 1st.

Destiny - posted on 05/06/2012

9

15

0

He began and has continued in a literacy program at the beginning of the year when he tested just below where he should have and is now reading on a 1st grade, 4 month level now, the only math they offered was a once a week 1 on 1 with his teacher, that is all they offer in kinder. In 1st grade they have special pull out programs for both math and reading, if we repeat he won't qualify for those, just the same 1 on 1 with his teacher for math.

Jenn - posted on 05/06/2012

675

1

47

Would he only be assessed for the extra programs next year or could you have it done this year? I have always heard, and believe, that it is better to repeat kinder than a higher grade down the line. Many hold their children back because their children are emotionally immature (like my daughter who now thrives in school) or struggle academically. There is a boy in my daughter's class with ADHD and he is really struggling in first grade. It would probably be better for him and less frustrating for him if he repeated. Confidence and comprehension are huge factors in a child's success in school.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms