Should we try for one more?

Alexandra - posted on 11/23/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )




I currently have 4 children. A five year old, twin 3 year olds, and a 1 year old. We are financially capable of supporting one more. We always talked about having one more and I always thought I'd end up with five. We are at the time frame where we either have another one now or forever hold our peace. I am 37 and my husband is 35. Our son (one of the twins) is the only boy in the family and although there is no guarantee we will either get pregnant or actually end up with another son, I'd like to shoot for it to give him the chance of having a brother growing up.

My husband and I both work but we find that we have tons of time with our kids already and we are a very close family and we both have beautifully close relationships with each child individually. I am not afraid of not having enough time for the baby at all.

I am worried about dealing with 5 teenagers in the future, however. Our family is very close and I cannot imagine we will have any serious behavior problems from our kids at that age--but you never know. I have never raised a teenager.

Another worry I have is, well, the schematics of having 5 children. Going to a hotel now is already difficult for us. Traveling can be a pain. And when they start to have school and athletic events, I am worried we won't be able to make it to every single one, and we have no family living closely in the area, although we do have 2 really awesome babysitters and tons of friends.

I am also worried about being able to afford private school for 5 kids. Our daughter will attend 1st grade next year at a private school where the tuition is around 10,000 dollars for elementary school and as high as 16,000 dollars for high school. We are capable of sending our 4 right now financially but, if we had a fifth, we would probably have to take one less family trip a year and rethink our plans of going to Europe any time soon.

But--despite all these things, I am still mostly convinced that I do want my fifth baby--it is what I have always dreamed about. I am worried though. But now is the time to make the decision.

I am asking other mothers out there--who have multiple children that are my childrens ages or somewhat older than them--is it manageable to have 5? Am I crazy? Should I just be thankful for what I have, or let nature take its course and if I have another I have another? Thank you all for your feedback and if you have any input please feel free to make comments because I am really torn at this point. Thank you,


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