Should you get involved if someone else's pre-teen kids are swearing in public?

Carrie - posted on 09/02/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi, I'm not a Mom but i have a question for Moms (I'm the 3rd oldest of 8 kids so I have a lot of experience with being around kids etc.). My boyfriend and i live in a kind of crappy neighborhood, we often times play with the kids outside. There is this one kid who is probly 10 or 11 who walks up and down our street and we can constantly hear him using the F word on the other kids (Note nothing is wrong with this kid, he is not handicapped in anyway). So my windows are open and all I hear outside is "Oh my F-ING God" this and "F-K YOU" That, for a good 10 minutes, I look out and its coming from the mouth of that same kid talking to some kid whose probly 6. Finally I go outside and tell the kid to stop swearing and he looks me dead in the face and goes "I got permission from my Mom so no!". There is a very real possibility that he does indeed have permission from his Mom.



What should I do about this? This is not okay and this little boy is being set up to fail. I'm not sure "looking the other way" is something I can do and be able to sleep at night, however calling CPS seems extreme, unless it isn't?



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If it was your own child being sworn at then I'd just say to talk with the other kid's parent but as you don't have any kids involved in the situation there really is nothing you can do about it. It is the boy's (and his parents) responsibility to monitor his language and as Dove indicated not everyone views certain words as being offensive. He will learn the hard way (or not at all) about the bad language.

Dove - posted on 09/02/2012

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What you should do? Nothing.... or close your windows. ;)



Now.... I hate that word with a passion and would 'flip out' if any of my kids ever talked like that, but... it's just a word and a lot of people don't view it the same way that I do.



Foul language is foul (again, imo), but it's not neglect and it's not abuse. Calling CPS JUST on this boy's use of words is absurdly extreme. Unless you have any evidence of this boy actually being neglected or abused.... CPS would (I hope) NOT investigate based on this boy's poor use of language... and I would hope any CPS worker that would take that call seriously would themselves be up for investigation.

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Shaylee - posted on 04/18/2013

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um hes not your kid so i would get off his case and now a days pre-teens at ages 10 and over is the time that they start swearing..........but the CPS would just laugh in your face if u called them for a kid swearing......lol i would just be sitting down with my popcorn and candy!!!

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I hate to say it... but my kids learned the "f" word from me. :-( I certainly don't allow them to use such language and I only have used it in the heat of the moment so to speak. Unfortunately these days the language is all around us. It is even on TV, now days it isn't unusual to hear profanities on TV. I have never sheltered my kids from other's use of swear words but I do try to explain to them what is acceptable and what is not. I also teach them how others would see them and judge them if they were to use bad language. As for the boy telling you he has permission to swear... well, he could just be saying that to get you off his case. But anyway, maybe the parents of the kid he was swearing at may step in and sort the problem out.

Carrie - posted on 09/02/2012

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Hats off to all the parents out there who create a better life for the children than the one they had.

Dove - posted on 09/02/2012

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Oh I know... my oldest leaned the 'F' word from being cussed out by the kid across the street.... who was half her age at the time (she was about 7 or 8).

Carrie - posted on 09/02/2012

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Thanks, thats kind of what I thought in the back of my head.. it just really sucks for that little boy! . I think the thing that bothers me is that the other little boy he was swearing at is like 6 and NOT related to him

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