"SHOULD YOU START SPANKING YOUR BABY AT A EARLY AGE?"

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S. - posted on 06/12/2012

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@kassandra you seem to be doing just fine if ppl tell you you should be spanking your child tell them "it's ok thanks but I'm doing it my way" what's your baby doing for them to say this? At that age Iv always found saying "NO" works fine, or saying "NO" and moving the Childs hands away or moving the child away altogether. My daughter is 20 month's now and as from a few days ago I introduced the naughty corner, I sit with her with my back to her then I tell her what she's done that it's "bad bad" then kisses and hugs. Iv done this 3 times now then today she was being a monkey squeezing between the couch and the window, I said "come out now or you will go in the naughty corner as your being bad bad" and she came out.
My middle daughter was very bad tempered and a bit of a loose wire if I tapped her hand or bum she would laught at me or hit me back, it just wouldn't get us anywhere so I stopped it as a punishment is pointless if it's ineffective, she was very hard work and ppl Would say to me "if she was mine she'd get a good hiding" I have been consistent with the naughty step and positive parenting works great with her, she is 4 now and I am so proud of the way she acts, nursery often gives me good feedback and if she has a turn a warning usually works the naughty step is hardly ever used now (so up your's to all the ppl who looked down their nose at me and told me to smack, cos my way worked lol)

Kassandra - posted on 06/12/2012

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the baby is going to be 1 year next month, and no i have my method i just always tell her no becasue it takes constent reminder of no, no, no for them to listen i thinik

Amy - posted on 06/12/2012

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My kids are 6 and 2 and have never been spanked. However to answer your question absolutely not a baby should never be spanked!

Kaitlin - posted on 06/12/2012

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first off, what do you define as an early age?

I have found spanking to be less effective than other means of discipline, and do not spank my children. They ARE disciplined, are well behaved and listen well (for 1 and 2 year olds) They know what is expected of them and what behaviors are not appropriate (examples, hitting, biting, pushing, screaming, not obeying)

However, I know several parents that do spank, and if handled the right way, can be somewhat effective. The child needs to know what they did was wrong, and why they are being spanked. In my opinion, anything under 3 is not appropriate, and will encourage hitting in toddlers.

Young babies do not need discipline other than telling them no and distracting them. Babies (under around 1 1/2) do not understand discipline and WILL copy you if you spank them- they will hit back or hit others.



Edited to add- why/in what example would you spank or want to spank? Just curious.

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i personally wouldn't spank a child until they are toddler or pre school aged. they need to be old enough to understad if you say - this is what you did wrong and that is why you are being spanked. if they can't draw the connection between the 2 then they are too young

Stifler's - posted on 06/12/2012

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If you get pressure to spank your kid you tell people to pop out their own kid and get up through the night and then they can discipline their own kid how they want.

Stifler's - posted on 06/12/2012

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No you shouldn't spank your baby from an early age. They don't understand that what they are doing is wrong so redirect to something appropriate and say no.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/12/2012

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Well, you're always going to get opinions from everybody about how you "should" be doing things.

But, if you know that your methods are working, you just look at them, smile sweetly, and ask who's raising the kid, you or them? LOL, or if you want to be polite (I'm pretty blunt), use Stacy's response of "thanks for your input, our way works well"...

Some people spank, some don't. For some kids time out works, for others it doesn't.

If gentle redirection and firm "NO" is working, then awesome! Don't change. I used the pop on the butt, mainly to get their attention if redirection and NO did not work. Spankings as punishment...well, only if they REALLY weren't listening after they hit 5 or 6 years old. And then, once, maybe twice.

I have 2 very well behaved, well mannered, respectful, and respected young men now.

Just do it your way. All of us have had that experience where someone "knows" better...Take it with a grain of salt, tell them that you'll take it under consideration, and then happily continue on your merry way, using your methods.

Kassandra - posted on 06/12/2012

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@Shawnn. No i am not going to start spanking my baby i was just geting other opinions becasue poeple have tolde me i should spank and i tell them no becasue she dont understand yet. So i was just curious to see what others had to say about it. My baby is pertty good at listening when you tell her "No don't do that" or if you just tell her "hey what are you doing" she knows, and will just go on to something new

Kassandra - posted on 06/12/2012

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@Kaitlin. I dont spank my baby i never have. I always just tell her no but i do see what your saying and i do have to agree with you on that becasue that is true.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/12/2012

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Ok, then why are you going to start spanking?



Don't get me wrong, I feel a pop on the butt is sometimes warranted, but seriously? You're asking permission to spank your kid?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/12/2012

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Ok, answer this: Does baby understand discipline, and why they are being physically punished?

Or are you just looking for a "discipline method" that everyone approves of?

How old is baby, anyway?

Kassandra - posted on 06/12/2012

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I AM ASKING BECASUSE I HAVE HEARD PEOPLE SAY THAT YOU SHOULD BUT I WANT TO GET OTHER MOMS OPINIONS

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