Tee - posted on 01/02/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
I have been divorced for almost a year, we were separated for the previous two years. We did not have a relationship, he moved in with a girl he met at work just two months before and still lives with her currently. Since we have split he has came back several times to either complain about his situation or to vent and once to beg me back. I couldn't do it, I saw no change and had been down that road before. So, throughout this time he tells me one thing and does another. She and I never talk and are never alone for it to happen. She does make sure she follows him everywhere and calls him constantly.Once she even drove her own car and followed him to watch him pick up our kids. When he has talked with me I try to help him with his life discussions and his spiritual confusion, but I never seem any attempt to change. Whenever there is a disagreement and I get upset about something kid-related the conversation is steered usually by him back to our past. I limited my talking with him and keep things short and to the point and this works for a while. However, due to having the flu I had to cancel my daughter's bday party and as a favor he brought her cake by my home and we watched her blow out candles and open gifts. He saw I was sick and never seemed to have a problem, but 20 minutes later I answer his phone call to find out he pocket-dialed me and overheard his and her conversation. She was bad-mouthing me as a mom and he was allowing it. I don't know what to do this whole situation has about drove me insane. Nothing I do is appreciated and I am tired of always letting things go. This girl has me at my boiling point and him allowing it makes it even worse. I don't know what I am looking for....maybe advice on how to deal with it....how to accept it....any positive feedback is appreciated.