Signs that my child might be gay?

Melissa - posted on 06/23/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




My 7 year old son loves to play with other boy's hair. He never does it to girls, only boys. I offered him to play with mine or my daughter, but he refuses. He says it makes him feel good. He has been doing it for awhile now. Is it a sensory thing? or something more? My son is on the Autism spectrum along with Sensory Processing Disorder and other diagnoses.


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Cherish - posted on 06/24/2012




when my son was little he liked "buckle shoes" he also liked playing with girls toys.
He has aspergers.
It could be a sensory thing,who knows,kids are weird
My son is 19 now and I STILL do not know if he is gay.He says he is "Bi" and I tell him he needs to pick one,not
I suppose it does not really matter if they are gay or not,as long as they are happy ay?

I know you were posting this question out of curiosity,sort of just wondering...

Melissa - posted on 06/24/2012




I never said I had a problem with him being gay. I just asked if it was a possible sign. There have been other things that have happened as well that I won't post in public, but this is the latest and was just wondering from those who have been there done that.

Louise - posted on 06/23/2012




Dont pigeon hole him at 7. Lots of kids play dress up, or hairdressers or play makeup.My sons did they loved to put my make up on me making me look like a clown. My sons are now 21 and 18 and both are straight no doubt. Let your son be your son, hes fine!

Danielle - posted on 06/23/2012




Maybe he feels more comfortable playing with boys hair because he can relate to the gender better.
I would think playing with hair is a sensory thing. My son is Autistic and fiddles with his ears.
I play with my hair because I like the feeling of it when I twirl it in between my fingers.

Anyways, what does it matter if he is, or isn't gay?
I think playing with hair shouldn't warrant the suspicion... especially if your son has been diagnosed with multiple disorders. The answer could be really simple, like the texture of a specific individuals hair.. or it could be general length (boys hair tends to be shorter)

I personally wouldn't sexualize my child with something like this; with the assumption that he could or couldn't be gay. Your son is 7, and developmentally delayed. Unless there is more "evidence" to support your suspicion, then I wouldn't label my child for something as harmless as hair.

Sorry, I am not sure how you feel about same sex relationships. I have many friends and family who are in same sex relationships, and I don't see a problem with any of it. I guess I am a little put-off with the title of the post.

Krista - posted on 06/23/2012




It could be a sensory thing, it could just be that he wants to be a barber. There are umpteen possibilities as to why he might be doing this. I'm assuming that you are seeing some sort of professional for his Autism and SPD? Why not ask them if this is something that is typical?

As far as being gay goes, gay people have a gamut of interests and quirks, just like straight people do. So hair playing is no more a sign of being gay than playing football is. If he's gay, you'll find out eventually, as long as the lines of communication remain open between the two of you.

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