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Raellyn - posted on 01/17/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son is 3 months old and his father and I were never married. He is not on the birth certificate because he didn't believe he was his. Now that he knows the child is his, he has been threating to take my son away from me. What is the chance his father gets more than 50:50? What is 50:50?

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Sarah - posted on 01/17/2016

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I see your point, but as long as you are being honest, he can't sue you, he can't have you arrested or whatever. They both were just being mean and ridiculous. Be prepared for more ridiculous behavior to come from them and don't let them push you around.

Raellyn - posted on 01/17/2016

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I was told by him if I put his on the birth certificate he will sue me therefore I did exactly what he asked and didn't list him and I waited to prove him wrong.

Sarah - posted on 01/17/2016

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Since when does the grandpa get to dictate who goes on a legal document. If you were 100% sure of the paternity, then you list him as the father (he can't just opt out). If be believes he is not the father then he can have a DNA test and have the document amended and his name removed. The BC is filled out at the hospital days after birth, if he didn't think he was the dad, why was he there and why on earth was grandpa there too?
It is pointless now, but you are linked to this guy for the next 18 or more years. You cannot allow yourself to be pushed around and commit fraud because dad and gramps are bullies.

Raellyn - posted on 01/17/2016

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I couldn't put his name down due to him telling me not too and his father ( the dad of his dad) was there and told the lady he did not want to be listed

Sarah - posted on 01/17/2016

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If you were certain of the paternity, you should have listed him as the father. That is beside the point now if a DNA test has been done.
He is equally entitled to parent and equally obligated to support this child as you are. Period. He could get shared custody, or even primary physical custody if he can demonstrate that living with him is in the best interest of the baby. When someone refers to 50:50 custody, it means that the child spends half of his time with one parent and half of his time with the other parent.
Talk to the father and try to come up with an agreement for support and shared custody, If you do reach an agreement, you must still get it legally signed by a judge. If you cannot form an agreement then the judge will decide for you, and whatever the judge says you must obey.

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