Single mom and son

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Hello , My name is Sue. I have a 15 yrs old son. This is a little hard to talk about. I know my son is hitting purbity and he is descovering himself. He has for the past two yrs. I have seen him ( you know) in his room along with changing his sheets. I don't have an issue with that bit he is doing it in the open now like he doesn't care who sees. It is only us so no one else is there or sees. He has done it once in my bed at night while we slept. I just acted to be asleep. My question is, should I stop him some how or just let it be and hope he grows out of it.

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Sarah - posted on 12/03/2015

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I suspect, based on the number of posts on this exact issue.....troll.

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Jodi - posted on 12/04/2015

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It's not real Jeff. It's a troll. We have them turn up every now and then.

JeffM - posted on 12/04/2015

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Let's see...

You say you are a single mom with a 15 y.o. son who masturbates in your bed while the two of you were sleeping together (without much success), and that your boy likes to openly masturbate anywhere in the public areas of your house, as well as onto the sheets of his own bed.

This cannot be for real.

Dove - posted on 12/03/2015

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Just checked the profile... yep, I think you're right... as I suspected.

Dove - posted on 12/03/2015

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If your kid is 15 and this is real... get both of you some professional help as soon as possible. There is something very, very fishy about this post... unless one or the other or both of you are in need of psychiatric help.

Raye - posted on 12/02/2015

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If you haven't talked to him about sex and being responsible and not getting girls pregnant or getting diseases, you might do that talk, too.

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OK thx. I got ya. I will probable do some of the items you mentioned. He really looksnup to me and were pretty close . I really don't mind it or seeing it ( he's my baby). I just don't want him thinking its ok to do around others or talk about it with people.

Raye - posted on 12/02/2015

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If he's in the living room, and you see him doing that, then tell him that's rude and against the rules. Make him leave the room and advise him of whatever other punishment you think is adequate.

Raye - posted on 12/02/2015

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For example, if he's masturbating in his room with the door is open, knock on the door and tell him that he needs to close the door when he does that. And then tell him the punishment. He should not continue to go at it if you're standing there reprimanding him. If he does, then he might have a more serious problem and might need counseling.

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So I should stop him in the middle of it? And then give him a consequence while he is still going at it? Like if I see him, walk right up to him and say stop that now and now give me your phone)? If that is what we decide on.

Raye - posted on 12/02/2015

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Well, the shower might be okay, because that doesn't leave a mess (or shouldn't). But, he needs to know the rules, and once he knows the rules, you need to enforce them with consequences.

You should sit him down for a talk, then tell him the rules (he's only to do that when he's alone and behind closed doors ONLY, not in the public areas of the house even if he thinks he's alone, and be considerate about clean-up). Inform him that breaking the rules will have consequences. Then when you notice him breaking a rule, stop him right that very second and tell him what his punishment is (chores or removal of privileges or something that will make him think twice next time). If you make him get up to do a chore or to hand over his phone or something like that, then maybe the frustration of not getting to finish will help him be motivated to seek a more private area next time.

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Raye, Thank you so much for the reply. Everything you said sounds good. He sometimes sleeps w me if he wants. As for consequences, should I speak to him about what he is doing. Like where we masterbates ie door open, shower, living room or just say in general to only in his room? Me more his father ever spoke to him about this act. Personal, I think he does it all wrong but I am not total sure. But anyways,I do like the take away privileges.

Raye - posted on 12/02/2015

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Tell him it's inappropriate to be doing that anywhere except alone in his room. Why was he in your bed? He's 15 and needs to sleep in his own room. If he is masturbating anywhere other than alone in his room, you need to have consequences, such as removal of privileges, so he learns to have proper respect.

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