Single mom custody

Peggy - posted on 09/19/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have physical custody of my six year old.her dad lives 6 hours away in another state. She is suppose to go to her dads the last weekend of every month and we are suppose to meet half way for drop offs. It is becoming financially hard to make these trips every month and he does not meet me half way when he drops her back off. He does not pay child support and he claims taxes every year. He gets her every other holiday, every school break and the whole summer break.I have to drive and extra hour to go get her. There are lots of little things in out current order that we argue about all the time. I feel that if everything is more spesific we would not fight as much and life would be less stressful for every one, I can't afford a lawyer but want to make these changes to the current order. I'm always scared to go against him in anything that will upset him to the point I panic and back down. He has a history of domestic violence. What are my chances that the judge will see my point of view? I want my child to have a great relationship with her father and I'm not looking to talk bad about him at all. I just want things to be fair and easy for our daughter and financially do-able.... Any advise or thoughts??

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Michelle - posted on 09/20/2016

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Just because he didn't want to pay child support doesn't mean he shouldn't.
You need to get that changed ASAP. He helped create a child, he is financially responsible in raising her.
Especially since you have your child back in your custody.

Dove - posted on 09/19/2016

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With him being so uncooperative in bringing her back halfway... it shouldn't be too hard to get the order ammended to having him come all the way to pick her up and you go all the way to get her back. That way you are both doing 50/50 driving in order to have her during your court ordered times. You shouldn't need a lawyer for that.

Michelle - posted on 09/19/2016

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I agree with the other 2.
You don't have to have a lawyer to get your orders changed.
You also need to see if you can get his wages garnished if he isn't paying child support.

Sarah - posted on 09/19/2016

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So go in front of a judge or request a mediator to help you figure this out. Custody orders get changed all the time.

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Peggy - posted on 09/19/2016

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She was living with him. I filed to get reidential custody. He agreed to that. But he wanted no child support, taxes every year, every other holiday, every school break and all summer. So I agreed so I could have residential. But I'm kicking my self for agreeing to no child support cuz it's getting financially hard with driving so far for visits and stuff.

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