Dior - posted on 05/23/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
I am a single mom to a 3 1/2 year old daughter. Once I became pregnant, I faced REAL decisions. Although her father was a great boyfriend (for seven years), he was not father or husband material. Once I found out I was with child, things changed. I had to leave him at 7 months pregnant. We were together seven years. When we separated, we sobbed and we hugged but we parted. It was what was best. She has his name and was there for her birth. And I am totally comfortable with the decision we made. At 35, I went back to school full-time. I work part time. My daughter goes to day care. She is smart, she is happy, and she is well adjusted. We live a full life. Her father hasn't paid any child support , nor have I looked for any. He is a "baby's daddy" and that's it. I am protecting my baby. But my dilemma is this: when people find out I am a single mother, it's almost as though they pity me. I get the, "Oh." And it make me feel bad. We have wonderful, loving people in our lives. Sometimes the cynic in me feels like maybe I am cheating my daughter out of her father. She is reaching school age, and I don't want kids to single her out like she has no daddy. Who knows maybe I will meet someone by then, but realistically I am a single mother today. I'd like feedback from married mothers, single mothers, anyone who can give me perspective.