Single mom fighting for safety for my children!

April Elisabeth - posted on 09/22/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am a mother of two sons, ages 3yr 11mo and 5yr 9 mo. I am divorced from my children's bio father. I am remarried, however my husband works out of town 3 states away. I am currently in litigation with my ex-husband (boys' father) because my children have displayed signs of abuse as well as made accusations against an older step-brother in their father's home, as well as made reports of psychological, physical, and sexual abuse against their father. However, since custody is an issue-there is no simple way to remove my children from their father's home. I live in the town where their father grew up and as such have no support network. I am basically fighting this battle on my own. I am exhausted and feel completely alone. In addition I am diagnosed with PTSD from my own traumatic upbringing and from the seven years I was in an abusive relationship with their father. I need support. Please help.

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April Elisabeth - posted on 09/23/2013

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Amber,
That would be great! I live in AL, but am not from here. I really have NO support network here and like I said my husband's been working in OK and will be for the foreseeable future. Any advice or support from any where is sooooooo welcome!

Amber - posted on 09/22/2013

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Wow girl there has got to be somebody that can help..let me do some investigating and searching

April Elisabeth - posted on 09/22/2013

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Amber,
The sheriff of CID (children's investigation division) is aware. However, because the allegations has led to custody litigation, the allegations must be backed up with creditable proof. Though the children have confided in me as well as their psychologist- a state run organization (like DHR or CPS) has to find the allegations creditable before visitation rights can be changed or removed. Some of the people who work for these institutions don't even have degrees. They may be "social workers" with maybe a bachelor's in social work or may be "licensed counselors" with no specialty of field. Had the allegations been made against a neighbor, for instance, that person would be properly investigated by the authorities, arrested or put on probation, registered as a sex offender, and most likely a restraining order would be put in place. I live in a rural area of Alabama where schools are still segregated, police look the other way when it comes to domestic violence, and there are really NO creditable state run organizations capable of handling child abuse cases where there isn't clear physical evidence.

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