Single Mom of 10yr old girl planning to Join the Military soon..

Veronica - posted on 11/24/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hi everyone, I'm 27 and a single mom to my 10 year old daughter. Although her dad is actively involved, I have been having a hard time trying to give my daughter the life I feel she deserves. I conceived at 16 and lived with my childs father for 5years, it was an abusive relationship and I had to get out. I ended up obtaining my GED and going back to school for Surgical Technology, I finally graduated with a 3.5 GPA but this was in 2014..ever since I have had other jobs outside of the medical field and unfortunately with my last employer things did not go well, needless to say I have been unemployed but started taking classes at a community college because I have never been the type of person to want to stay at home doing nothing. I like to be a go-getter. Unfortunately, I live with my parents but that doesn't mean things are easy for me. I have absolutely no support system and the reason as to why I have been able to accomplish my goals up to date is because my daughter is my number 1 priority. Back in 2013 I met with a Recruiter and I took the ASVAB but I didn't score enough. Now 2 years late I would like to pass the test, give it my 100% and fully enlist for active duty. I plan to get the family care plan and leave my daughter with her father, we share joint custody at the moment. I know this will be the toughest decision I will have to make In life but I have always felt that I need to do this for my daughters future and for mine. I just would like to hear from other moms who are in the military and "how do you handle it" "how are you able to cope with being away for so long" "what are the first steps I should take" and when I decide to finally go, "how do I explain it to my daughter so she can understand" I also would greatly appreciate some words of encouragement. Thank you to everyone for taking the time to read this and God Bless xo.

-Veronica :)


Cathy - posted on 11/24/2015




Well Veronica,
My husband Dale was in the military 21 years he passed away 2 years ago from health issues to many to mention now. He spend 1 year at Deago Garcia and Island in the Pacific it was hard on me especially because I was pregnant but we made it he finally came home.
If you decide to join it will be a great sacrifice for you and your family your daughter will miss you and so believe it or not will your x husband raising a child is hard work. Sounds like you want someone to tell you what you are doing is ok well I think the only one that can tell you that is you. Seems you need this journey for whatever the reason supporting your country or just trying new things it is still your journey no one else can tell you how you will feel or how you will handle it becasue they are not you. I am a strong born again christian and my life is a story unto itself believe me I did not have an easy time of it but one thing I do know God Jesus Christ was with me and is still with me even now. What I want to encourage you to do is take it easy try not to worry about every decision you make becasue there is a higher power and I truly believe that many times he takes us along to a place where maybe we can make a great difference so make a difference and whatever you do do it well and be proud of yourself. My husband loved the Navy and it was not easy to be a Navy wife but I was proud of him for what he did served his country oh and the benifits are great. Well I hope I have helped you and will say this prayer with you now Dear God please give this dear girl the courage and strength to do the best she can for herself and her daughter and take her under you wing and protect her no matter where she is. Thank you God through your son Jesus Christ
Take care

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