Single mom of ADHD/teen son in need of support.

Julie - posted on 11/18/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Anxiety is overwhelming me in regards to helping my son learn the tools he needs to have a successful and stress free high-school experience, without me stressing him out in the process!

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Julie - posted on 11/18/2015

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Thank you both.
I am trying to let him make his own choices, for example getting his homework assignments in on time, but they are not without consequences.
At the same time he is considering for the first time in his life taking medication for some of his ADHD symptoms, so we are going through that process with his primary doctor and a psychologist.
I find it to be a fine line supporting him with issues of focus, absentmindedness, etc; and giving him consequences for forgetting to do an assignment or putting it in the wrong place and not being able to find it or not completing his after school chores... but not having a problem chatting with friends on the phone and keeping up his social life.
Reached out to the school for support as he has only just finished the 1st quarter of his freshman year and does have a 504 in place.
Maybe the best thing to do is know that I am doing the best I possibly can as we travel down this road of life...

Marissa - posted on 11/18/2015

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I agree with Sarah. Julie, both of my kids may be under 3, but I did struggle with ADHD myself. I had to learn for myself that I needed tom pay attention and focus. I'm not sure if this is the answer you are looking for or not.

Sarah - posted on 11/18/2015

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Not sure if this is helpful, but I had to realize that high school is about my son learning how to make his own choices good or bad. You become more of a mentor. You point out both sides of an issue, sometimes you share you view and why, but then you have to allow them to choose and learn. High school is not going to be stress free. But with that stress your son will grow and learn. Life is not stress free, so learning how to deal with stress constructively is a good tool to learn. Mistakes will be made, but through those mistakes is learning. Remember you are preparing him for the world. It is not important that he choose the right road all the time, instead it is important that he knows how to make the wrong road right.

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