Single mom of teenager. I feel alone!

Tina - posted on 07/12/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )




My daughter is spending more time with her friends or just in her room but doesn't like me to leave the house. I feel almost trapped and feel guilty when I do leave. I have friends but they all have partners and my daughter does not like to do anything with them. I hate feeling lonely and am unsure what to do with myself.


Jodi - posted on 07/12/2015




Since when does your daughter run your household and your life? Honestly, she doesn't want you going out, does want anything to do with your friends, how is this even her choice to make? Why are you letting her make the calls?


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Margaret - posted on 07/13/2015




Teenagers are kind of hard to live with, but I kind of doubt that she wants you to live in misery. Most teenagers want some independence, and are ok with being left alone. If she isn't I would say there is something deeper. I think my advice depends on how old she actually is. 13 is very different than 16 in terms of where she should be in maturity.

If she really just isn't ready to be left alone maybe you can arrange for her to go to a friend's house while you go out and then have the friend over to give that mom a chance to go out or something like that. You could also consider having your friends over for dinner and a movie or something, but ask her to either stay in her room, or be pleasant to your company.

Have you made sure that there isn't some reason she doesn't want you leaving? I mean is she afraid of being alone in the house, is she worried about you, or the people you hang out with, etc? Maybe there are break-ins she heard of, or you had a bad experience with an SO or something of the sort, or maybe she had a bad experience with a SO, anything that might have left her rattled. If there is some sort of fear, you might need to have that addressed, especially if it is totally unwarranted fear.

Michelle - posted on 07/12/2015




I agree with the other ladies. Your teenager doesn't control the house, you do. If you want to catch up with your friends then you do it. There is no way I'd not see my friends because my teen didn't want me to.

Dove - posted on 07/12/2015




Get out and spend time w/ your friends. Perhaps you can find a 'hobby' that your daughter would enjoy doing w/ you on occasion... or she can stay home on her own sometimes. You can certainly do whatever you want w/ your time when SHE is out w/ her friends as well.

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