Single mom support?

Megan - posted on 09/23/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have no family, job pays 11/hr and child support isn't an option thanks to a lying ungrateful b**** how the hell am i supposed to do this. Im going to go nuts!!!!

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/24/2014

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Megan, you do what you have to. When my kids were little, I worked 3 jobs at one point, while my husband pulled down 60 or so hours a week as well.

Thecandlechick626 - posted on 09/24/2014

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financially. how the flip am i supposed to survive. I've been a stay at home mom for so long, now i'm going to be working all hours of the day and night to support the kids and i, and daycare is REALLY EXPENSIVE like 3/4 my income. I've done the math. To make the amount i need to cover EVERYTHING with food stamps included i need to be working 71 hours a week, and that's just to get by. :( i'm stressed beyond a doubt and i don't have the experience to get a better job.


When my husband talks--his words get jumbled up. he'll say something like "i need to go to the store for cheerios" but it'll come out "um chereeos, store....yea" her story sounded like this "he came into my room and got on top of me, and we made out--both naked" then it changed to "we were under the house in the basement, naked, he fingered me" there have been a couple other stories that she's said. 3 of them at night. We were sleeping on an air mattress that blocked the door all the nights. so he would have had to move me, and the kids without disturbing us, then put up the air mattress to get out of the room for those ones. the one time she said it was during the day, it was out in broad daylight in front of all of us and she and he were naked having sex. i think i'd notice if he was having sex with her in front of me. he didnt do anything to her. she made up the story for attention, and to get away with getting caught sleeping around.

her therapist doesn't believe her either and she's been seeing him for years. she's a pathological liar.


no i dont like my sister very much, she stole from me, she's tried to stab me before--like seriously walk up with a knife and go after me, she lies to get other in trouble on a regular basis because its funny to her. and my parents still believe her. she skips school to sleep around, then goes after the teachers blaming them.

of the years she's been in therapy, i've spoken with the therapist, and he said that what she needs besides therapy and meds to help are for my parents to lay down boundries. they wont do it. IMO shes not a good person. she is a sociopath.

Dove - posted on 09/24/2014

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I take it you don't like your sister very much....?

If she was around at all and you weren't right there looking at them the entire time... you don't know for a fact that it didn't happen. You are accusing her of being a liar because she has changed her story, but yet when your husband does the same thing (essentially) it's cute....

I'm not saying he DID do it and I'm not saying he didn't... I'm just saying you have no way of knowing 100% for sure either way.

And I thought the point of your op was for advice on how to survive financially.... which has nothing to do w/ what your sister or your husband did or did not do.

Thecandlechick626 - posted on 09/24/2014

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when i said he was with me i didn't mean in a relationship sense, i meant that he was spending time with me. we were only there for a couple days and then we came back to Colorado. her story is sketchy at best because he and i were hardly separated that entire 3 days set aside time for him or i to use the bathroom. also she's changed her story 4 times to different acts/locations/times ect. and yes, i am the OP. this supposedly happened 3 years ago. so no dna or anything.

Were preparing as if he is going to be found guilty. the man can never get his words straight (his thoughts come out jumbled sometimes... its a trait i like about him its cute)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/24/2014

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honestly, if 'user' is Megan...I have to say this. Is there proof that your husband/boyfriend, whatever, raped your sister?

Rape is a HUGE deal. You shouldn't downplay that and call her a lying bitch unless you have absolutely, beyond a shadow of a doubt produced proof that she is. Perhaps your husband/boyfriend is hiding something. He's admitted to NOT being with you at the alleged time, it sounds like, and if you're saying he's 'with' you as in you're in a relationship...that isn't proof that he didn't commit a crime.

DNA will prove that out, one way or another. I sincerely hope that he did not, but have you prepared for the consequences if he is proven guilty? You will need to be ready for that.

Thecandlechick626 - posted on 09/24/2014

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My soon to be Ex will likely be in jail because my sister lied and said he raped her.... shes 16. I know he couldn't have done it because he was with me. but he told the police that he was half asleep the day she says and doesn't remember and they took that as a confession. were fighting it but he will likely be behind bars because she didn't want to get in trouble for getting around with the boys. he cant pay child support from behind bars--in fact if they do i will be asking the judge to stop child support from him until he's not only out of jail but has had time to find a place, transport, and job and gotten a little in savings for emergencies. (i don't want to be divorced from him... :( hes not sure his path though.) i agreed to start paying off his debt that WE accumulated during the marriage the best i could while hes in jail. he was willing to do the same for be untill she did this.

Dove - posted on 09/24/2014

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Do you have court orders? $11/hour isn't a LOT, but w/ good budgetting it can be doable (assuming you are working full time hours). If you are in the US your nearest DHS office can point you in the direction of helpful resources. You may qualify for food stamps to 'free up' some of your income for bills and necessities other than food.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/24/2014

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How come child support isn't an option? Prove paternity and file for it.

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