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Single Moms, please share your tips and tricks for accomplishing anything and everything, from getting shower to completing important tasks, and for making time for yourself and still spending quality time together.
I always feel that balance between work & "me time" vs. Mommy time is a constant inner struggle. I probably over-balance toward the quality time with Ella Claire (which makes me feel good) but I don't always do enough for myself and feel like I'm always behind on everything else which is stressful.
My daughter (21 mos.) doesn't nap well some days (and some days not at all!) and goes to bed late, so I don't get to do much while she sleeps (like I hear from other moms). We live with my mom, but "Grandma" still works full-time over an hour away, so she's not home until late. I like that we eat a late dinner together as a family most nights, but that doesn't leave much time to get things done before the "witching hour" hits and Ella Claire only wants Mommy. At that point, I'm exhausted and we go to bed together so I can't do much then. I also feel guilty that Grandma does so much on the weekends for us and that eats into her personal time. She loves time with her granddaughter, but sometimes she feels like she needs to be doing something else. Last but not least, my ex-husband has supervised visitation, so I don't get that "break" that some single moms get when Daddy picks up for the weekend because I'm still there with them and doing all the driving because he can't drive right now.
I have learned a few tricks that help and I'd like to share with others:
1- I learned that bathing with my child can be fun quality time and really helps solve the no-good-time-for-a-shower issue. Then, occasionally I get a hot shower (HEAVEN!) when Grandma's around.
2- I took Ella out of home daycare for the summer & hired a summer babysitter - my friend's 13 yr. old daughter who is very responsible for her age and has safety training. It's saving me a TON of money so I can afford a few extra hours to get more done and it's been fun for Ella Claire to be home.
3- I'm learning to cook larger servings of food and freeze leftovers for busy or no-nap-day-whiny nights and times where we need to eat dinner before Grandma gets home.
4- I spend time on occasion with friends who have older kids so I can have adult conversations while their 10-12 yr. olds watch and entertain Ella Claire in the next room.
Ok, that's a few... now, please share your tricks with me & other single moms too!!!