single mom trying to get dad to see son more

Kira - posted on 04/17/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hello my name is Kira i'm a single mom of a 9 month old. My son is just amazing he is beautiful has a good fun personality doesn't fuss to much (unless he's teething really badly) but in general an all-around wonderful baby. I just don't get what's wrong with my ex he doesn't seem to really come around anymore. He hardly calls or texts to ask how he is doing. When we do talk it's usually very brief. For awhile I saw some improvement he even started to watch him and I encouraged him to take him on certain days (not night) but he doesn't ask for him anymore and also the last couple times he did have him he came back kind of strange like out of it almost and my ex tells he how many hours he sleeps which isn't like my son at all. When he does take the time to finally come over to see him he usually texts the entire time or watches t.v for some reason he won't talk to him and he loves to make him sleep. I don't know how he does it though. My son typically has two naps a day a short nap and a little big one. But he pats his back hard that it makes him sleepy again and he'll sleep the whole visit usually. Then instead of staying awhile he just stays for an hour or less. His excuse is almost always someone's birthday or he needs to help a friend out. There's nothing wrong with going out but I don't think that you should just go out all the time and not spend time with your son. I used to argue about seeing him more but I'm starting to give up. Usually these actions would make me mad but it's making me more sad. I don't want him to have a flaky dad. Hayden acts like he's more of a stranger then anything I just don't know what to do anymore. Any suggestions?

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Kira - posted on 04/17/2014

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I was going to take the first action soon actually. When my son was first born I went and set up the whole deal because he wasn't calling or seeing him the first two months. But then he started kinda coming around so I have him a chance. But he just doesn't come around again. He does give child support but he won't have it always and has excuses for weeks I try not to make to big a deal but when my son needs certain things it's kind of hard not to.You know that never crossed my mind until my parents brought that up to me. When he brings him home it's like he is so dazed he doesn't know where he is or something and shows no emotion for like an hour or sometimes longer. I'm not sure if he is just dazed from sleeping but when he over sleeps he only acts tired for 10 minutes or so. I'm not sure he would do something like that. But then again he is a really detached person in general. The fact that you even brought that up gave me a sick feeling since that's not the first time someone's said it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/17/2014

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Well unfortunately you cannot force the bio dad to be a father. I am sure u already know that. What u can do is get a lawyer and set up a custody agreement along with child support in place. If he does not comply, I can always try for full custody. Some men just don't deserve to be fathers.

Are u suspicious of him medicating your son so he sleeps?

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