single mom turned to online cam modeling and lost kids (now fighting)

Jenny - posted on 05/28/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I was a cam model and my mother called dss saying I was producing child porn. they took away kids and then the case was unfounded, but before it was unfounded mother filed for custody of my 8 y.o downs syndrome daughter. It was just a job and only did it while she was at school or sleeping. She used all the cam modeling pics from online to show judge and he said although it is a legal job he based it on bad secision making from a case from 1980. It is 2016 judge.single moms have to do what they can to provide the best life for their children. Mother is a socio path and was a horrible mother to me, and she is rich. How will I win this, I never hurt my kids and I am a great mother. The kids were never exposed to what I did, they thought I worked online. How many parents have sex in their room while kids are asleep!!! any opions on this would really help

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Jodi - posted on 05/28/2016

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Jenny, just so you know, I am not the one judging you here.....I am throwing the other perspective at you. You can argue all you like that cam modeling is okay, but the fact is, a judge has ruled against you on the basis that you are cam modeling, so you need to take that seriously rather than brushing it off as "it's 2016......blah, blah". I get that. But those women don't have mothers out to get the kids or ex partners who are using it against them. You do. And it is NOT the same as having sex with dad when the kids are asleep because it is online and it is there forever. Even when the kids grow up. I am not going to say it was wrong for DSS to investigate the situation.

I'm in no way justifying what your mother is doing. But you have a custody hearing. You need to toe the line and do all the right things. You need a lawyer that is going to fight for you, and you need evidence against her ability to parent your child. I'm not quite sure what other advice you are after,

Jenny - posted on 05/28/2016

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Jodi i have lost custody the first court hearing judge granted temp custody to my mom and my sons father. My mom is paying for his lawyer also. I have a lawyer. Motion to dismiss was not granted. Im ok if i have to share custody with sons father but not my daughter with my mom. My mom is very rich and resided in the dominican republic but came to the us just to do this to me. She even texted me saying i know u never hurt them. She refuses to stop and i cant afford it all but she can. She smokes pot and drinks and spanks my daughter. .she also owns a loan shark buisness in dominican. Alot of people have threatned her life there and even went after her. She is trying to get birth cert and passport from me for my girl but i wont give it to her since i know she will take her there and not come back. She is a evil person. Was a horrible person to my brother and i when we were young. Shes never beem a part of my girls life until now. She barely ever lets me see her and tells my girl i dont love her. I have every phone convo and visit recorded. My girl tells her all the time she wants to be with me not her. She has downs syndrome so its horrible and sad. Idk what to do. The judge Made the first decision solely based on the pictures that i had online and said bad decision. Its 2016 there are so many women that do cam modeling and have kids. I didn't do it for fun just so i can have money and not have to send her to child care.

Jodi - posted on 05/28/2016

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If you have quit, then you stand a good chance of gaining custody of your children. But I'm going to be brutally honest with you - once it is on the internet, it is always out there. You will never actually totally be able to eliminate it. I wish people would understand that - those images no longer belong to you. I say this from the perspective of a school teacher of children who have posted inappropriate pictures who will NEVER get them back and will never be able to eliminate them. It is ignorant to believe they are totally gone.

With regard to keeping custody of your kids, you need to get yourself a lawyer and demonstrate that you are an appropriate parent to your child. But if you walk in trying to compare what you have done with parents having sex while children are asleep, the judge will not believe you really understand the seriousness of your actions. You haven't lost custody of your child yet, by the sounds of it, but you now need to work hard to keep custody. Giving up your cam model job is a good start. Finding a legitimate job to support your children would be another positive step.

Jenny - posted on 05/28/2016

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hey, well I have since quit that job and I do realize that it could impact the kids in the future I now have a regular job and I suspended all of the accounts and have had all the content deleted off of the internet. if you do a thorough search of the name I used u will not find any content.

Jodi - posted on 05/28/2016

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Actually, if you were doing this with naked picture or pornographic material, then yes, it is grounds on which to lose your kids. How can you even be comparing that to two parents having sex in their bedroom while their children are asleep? I think you are in total denial as to why what you are doing is impacting on your children. You do realise, right, that once it is online, it is there forever? Have you even CONSIDERED the day your children find it?

If you want to do the best by your kids, get an actual job - one that does not require you stripping off for a camera online. How do you know you never hurt your kids? Your kids don't have internet access yet. Go and get a real job if your kid is in school - there ware better ways to support your child if you want to get your kid back.

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