Single parent advice please!

Khay - posted 5 days ago ( 6 moms have responded )

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I left my son's father while I was 7 months pregnant. During our relationship he was cheating, heavily drinking, constantly denied my son as his and even got physical with me. This includes smashing a bedroom door in on me stomach first. He fought me in the back seat of my car while pregnant while trying to steal my wallet. He kept saying the baby wasn't his. Due to fear of safety I left and went back home to Canada with my family . I had my son 2 weeks later. For the first month he still heavily denied my son as his and when he saw a picture he finally admitted to saying he was his son because he looked like him. He now Always asks to see him but I have no plans to return back to the U.S.. I feel as though I'm protecting my son. Its not fair that now he wants to claim him as his when he did everything to deny him before birth and even endangered him numerous times. My son will now be 2 this year. What would you mom's do in my position? Is it a good idea to allow him into his life? He had made threats to my family and even wished me and my baby died during childbirth. I stopped posting pictures on social media because someone was sending him the pictures. I never wanted my son to grow up without a father but he has never been a father to my son.

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Miracle - posted 3 days ago

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you have to let your son see his father. but don't go back to this man, dont be weak.

Michelle - posted 4 days ago

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Like I said, talk to a lawyer.

ETA: It doesn't matter what he has done in the past, he hasn't legally given up his rights so yes, he has a right to a relationship with his child. What he has done in the past won't go in his favour but it won't stop him from being granted visitation.

Khay - posted 4 days ago

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So you think he still has rights even though he had put me and my son in physical danger? How would it be kidnapping if my son was unborn at the time? He denied being the father throughout it all and I still have all the proof including the police reports I had to file. I tried in the first month in involve him but he continued to deny my son so I let it be.

Michelle - posted 5 days ago

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Your son has a right to know his Father.
I suggest you get yourself a lawyer that specializes in international custody issues.
If the Father wanted to he could file a case against you for kidnapping.
You also don't have the right to deny the relationship and because you left the country and are refusing to even make an effort to encourage a relationship it could go against you if he wanted to press the issue.

Khay - posted 5 days ago

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Carol,
I just want to make sure I'm doing the right thing for my son by keeping him out of his life.

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