Sister In Law Jealousy? Maybe....

Cara Heather - posted on 10/16/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Ok Me and my sister in law have been having problems the first day we met. Are husbands are brothers. My sister in law made it very clear that she didn't like me so i kinda stayed away the first years me and my husband met. I started bonding with my mother in law she hated it. she has girls that i love dearly. But she made clear don't get to close. Anyways me and my husband want to have a baby, we i told the family that we was trying. My husband has a son already and i sadly lost my child when he was 4 years old he had heart problems. Anyways after we told the family we where trying she gets
Pregnant with her 3 child. I have been on the depo shot so we all know that takes longer . so what i need help with is why she would take the shine away from me and my husband she knows what we have been through, And weeks before she got pregnant she made sure we was still trying. I don't know what to do. I am very heart broke. I told her my baby names that i liked and feel she will try to use them . please someone tell me if they kinda know what i am talking about .

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Michelle - posted on 10/16/2014

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Have you even sat down and had a talk with her? Have you asked her why she doesn't like you?
I agree with Shawnn though, unless it's actually impacting on your life I would just ignore her. I wouldn't be telling her the names you like or even that you're trying, it's none of her business. I would also get your husband to not tell people you're trying to fall pregnant, it just puts more pressure on you as a couple as they will keep asking if you are pregnant yet.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/16/2014

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How old are you? You sound like you're in HS and still doing the petty jealousy thing!

You assume that she got pregnant because you did. You are actually thinking that what you do is SO IMPORTANT to her that she feels she has to match or best your every move? If she doesn't even really LIKE you (so you say) why would she bother?

As I said, stop reading more into the situation than is really there. So what if she doesn't like you bonding with your MIL? It's not her business, and unless she's horning in on your time with your MIL, you have nothing to be concerned about. And, in the grand scheme of things, who cares that she's pregnant? You're the one making it an issue.

As far as her kids go...She's the parent, its up to her who she wants around her kids. You're going to be just as controlling of who can see or bond with yours, when you have it.

Cara Heather - posted on 10/16/2014

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like i kinda get maybe she didn't get knock up just because i want too. i mean really who cares i will take care of my kids and she will take care of hers. don't get pregnant just because someone else does that's stupid . as for the mother in law that are husbands mother, not hers dont see why she cares so much if we bond. and why even care if her girls bond with me?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/16/2014

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Stop reading more into the situation than there is.

Pregnancy is the natural outcome of sexual intercourse. Its HIGHLY doubtful that she deliberately impregnated herself in order to "take the shine away" from you.

It sounds as if you may be unconsciously jealous of her, actually.

one of my SILs does have some jealousy about my relationship with her mother, but I figure that's her problem, and it doesn't affect my relationship with my mother in law. We enjoy our relationship, and my mother in law enjoys her relationship with her daughter. She also lets her daughter know that she's being childish if necessary...

YOu need to concentrate on your relationship with your husband and mother in law, and stop worrying about how you think your sister in law either hates you or is trying to one up you. In the long run, it's not worth it.

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