Amy - posted on 12/10/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hi all, I need some advice. My older sister has no kids and is not married. The rest of our family doesn't celebrate Christmas. My husband and I have a large, blended family...5 kids. I have always cooked and hosted Christmas, which is fine. I love doing it. But my sister informed me that she is bringing her friend, who has no plans because the friends kids are with their father. I of course said it was fine for her to come. Then she says, "We need to put her name in for the gift exhange." I initially said, no! It's frustrating to me that she would put me in that position. Esspecially when we do a $20 one for the 8 of us. What she doesn't get is that it only costs her $20, but it costs my husband and I $140. I am laid off of work and it's been a really hard year. I said, "No, that would be awkward for her and us". My sister looked at me funny and I explained that if I went to someone's house for Christmas, that I didn't know, I would expect a gift and we don't know her and she doesn't know us. I told my sister, "you buy her a gift if you don't want to see her not opening a present." My sis is lonely and I have always bought for her like one of my kids because she doesn't have anyone except us and we love her. And she buys one present...the annual gift exchange. Well, this year she is in for a surprise, because that's all I can afford to get her this year. And for her to ask to throw in another person to buy for? I think I did the right thing, but I'm still a little mad at her for putting me in that position and thinking that feeding a person and opening your home is not enough. I need to let it go right?