Six weeks pregnant after losing my son 6 months ago

Natalie - posted on 12/27/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi there. I lost my little boy at 42 weeks pregnancy, on the 20th of June this year. Its been a rollercoaster and I have found that most of my husbands family have been inconsiderate.
Over the months Ive had alsorts of stupid remarks off his family etc, but I think the best texts messages was off his brothers new girlfriend, who was sending me messages and one said, I didnt understand how she felt, she was depressed as her 12month old son wouldnt sleep and she kept losing weight. After a few more stupid messages like this, I told her to stop texting me. Now I can stand the sight of her and to top it off her and him have announced they are having a baby and my mother in law stated, this is something we just have to deal with and even though Ive explained to my mother in law the messages I have been getting, she just keeps saying, Oh well she wont have meant it, shes a lovely girl! Ive been so mad and upset, I feel like all this has been done to hurt me and my husband, everyone seems to forget we lost our little boy (of 10lb 10ounces) only a few months ago and in their eyes they dont seem to think any of it should be affecting us now.
Im now 6 weeks pregnanct and Im sooooo angry! I keep thinking about the family and keep getting wound up, I just dont know what to do, I wish I could ignore them and never have to see or speak to them again, but I have my husband here, who is piggy in the middle.
Im so scared and anxious with being pregnant and dont want any of this added stress ontop.

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Natalie - posted on 12/28/2012

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Yes you are right. Ive had more stupid messages tonight off my sister in law complaining about new years eve hahah, its so laughable but I now feel stressed.
They dont know Im pregnant yet and therefore are still acting like childish individuals, and shes 43.
I need to cut off all contact, even if it does cause problems.

Lacye - posted on 12/27/2012

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I know it will be hard, but I think you need to stay away from his family for a while until after you have gotten over the death of your son. I can't imagine what you are going through and I know it must be hard, but all of this added stress is not good for your current baby. Just stop all contact. Let your husband know that you just need some time away from them. It might be hard for him to understand this, but right now the child you are carrying is the most important thing.

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