six year old with hands on

Diana - posted on 10/04/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I feel like a failure as a mother. my son is six and ever since he started school he has struggled with hands on. he is now in grade 2 and it hasn't changed. his father and I separated a year ago and it seems to be the same if not worse. He gets angry and then he reacts by throwing something, screaming and hitting someone. an example, he went to a birthday party and they all got pucks. the party went great until the end when all the kids were hitting their pucks with their sticks. I didn't see what happened but when I talked to my child to see what happened because the other boy was crying. he said the boy took his puck and wouldn't give it back. my son then hit him with his hockey stick. I was contemplating if I bring him to the birthday party in case something like this happened. and now I am full of emotions. I have had people tell me I'm not discipling him if he is like this but I feel I am. When my child gets mad he will throw something, yell or react with hands on. Is this who he is or will this ever change??? or is anger a genetic??

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Jodi - posted on 10/05/2013

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I guess it depends on his "currency". I personally wouldn't ban outside play, as this is an important outlet, and is also healthy play. The iPad, I would ban for longer than a day. I would also ban TV, and any other electronic games. But as I said, it depends on what your child's currency is. If your son's violence is involuntary (he can't control it) these things won't help and he may need some help with some anger management techniques, which is possible by seeking some outside assistance.

Diana - posted on 10/05/2013

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At the party I told him he had to go say sorry to the 11 year old boy and then took him home. I talked to him about it..go tell an adult and use your words. It was late when party ended so he went to bed but I explained that he gets no I-pad and he can't play outside for the day. Input is always good...what would u have done?

Jodi - posted on 10/04/2013

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You say you are disciplining him. Can I ask what the consequences were when he hit the boy with the hockey stick? I am just curious as to how you are diciplining your child currently.

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