sleep deprived!!!! 5 month old boy and "zombi" mom

Diana Vieru - posted on 03/07/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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my 5 month old son(second child) is VERY difficult.Never sinc birth he wanted to go to sleep without me or his dad carrying him through the bedroom,singing,shushing,slightly dancing and still fighting it.It usually takes 15 to 30 minutes to put him down at night.Not anyone else can do it,he oly sleeps with us,not even his grandma...
If I think about the fact that he still eats every 2-3 hours at night,and after going to bed around 7-8 pm,he wakes up after 3-4 in the moring,my head start hurting.He just wakes up,eats formula or just tea(that depends on him-he would turn his head when he feels the bottle),and then goes to sleep.But for me(his dad works abroad)is exhausting.After putting him to bed in the evening,I still have to take care or my other 10 yrs old(homework,school...even feelings),not to mention that my house practicaly "fyies".The day time isn't easy either,because he never sleeps more than 30 minutes(and not always,18-24 min),and barely sleeps 2 a day.So I am desperate,I even made an appointment with a neuropsichiatryst, to see what is bothering him.Putting him down and letting him cry is not an option:he almost didn't breath after just 8 min of intense crying.But one thing I know for sure...I forgo what a cream feels like on my face,I didn't take a bathtub bath in....5 month,I rarely get the chance to dry my hair(it's usually pinned up wet,coz I have to jump out f the shower)....OMG...when will this end?

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Diana Vieru - posted on 03/09/2013

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Ok,I guess I was misunderstood.My dear baby,doesn't sleep till 3 after I put him to bed.hat's all he sleeps,and unfortunately wakes up in between at least 4-5 times,for formula or just tea....So,no he doesn't sleep from 7 till 3(I would really be blessed).And at day time he would only sleep mostly 30 minutes(by clock)...
At least if he would sleep at night a length of 2 hours,would give me time to "regroup" myself,but if he only sleeps 1,30,or 2 h,I cannot fall asleep in that time,and rest,and fix milk for him....that's why I am frustrated....
And you are right,I have been through a baby once,but it was different.The oldest one only faught me when putting him down,then slept like you say till morning at 6....
I am just afraid that maybe something s bothering him besides his gums....maybe something makes him unconfortable,since he aways taes a V shape with head to toes statin somehere around 2-3-4 in the morning.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/07/2013

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Ok, I can tell you're frustrated, but I have to say that you also need to realize that your baby is 5 months old. He's still got a lot of development ahead of him.

At 5 months, if you're putting him down at 8 pm, and he wakes again at 3 am, he's sleeping 7 hours at a stretch. This is considered "sleeping through". Anything over 6 hours at a stretch is sleeping through. So, he actually has pretty good sleep times if that is the case.

Yes, it is hard to get through the baby stage, but if you have a 10 year old, you have already been through it once, so it's kind of like riding a bike, it will come back to you...As far as time for yourself, you cannot be completely occupied between the time that you put baby down for the night, and the time that he wakes at 3 or 4. Your ten year old can be interacted with both while the baby is awake, and after, but I'd certainly hope that the 10 year old is in bed by 9ish, which gives you a little time to shower, or just sleep, if that's your desire. Also, if you're feeding at 3 or 4, and the baby is going down for another hour or more of sleep, you have shower time then.

The more frustration you have, the more the baby can sense that, and your older child as well. The more they sense, the more difficult they are, the more stressed you get, it's a vicious circle that only you can stop. Personally, I'd start by scheduling my day. I don't mean minute by minute, but a general time frame. So, from 6-8 am is get up, dressed, breakfast & older kid to school. 8-12, misc chores, baby stuff, etc. (fitting in naps, etc as necessary). 12-1 break for lunch. You and baby. Sit down, breathe. 1-3, again, misc chores and baby stuff as necessary. 3-5 homework time with oldest, who can also transition to kitchen help with table setting, minor kitchen chores.5-7 make/consume dinner. Bathtime for baby. 7-8 bedtime stories (yes, even 10 year olds will sit fora bedtime story at times) or other quiet time. Can visit with 10 year old at the same time, and create a "family time". After baby is down for the night, 8-9 for time with your eldest, and then bed.

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