Cynthia - posted on 12/01/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )
I am exhausted, not because of my kids waking me up at night, because of my husband. I am a working mother - I teach middle school, and I need rest to be able to function at work. Almost every night, my husband wakes up at 3AM. He is a smoker, and I have tried many ways to convince him to quit. At this point, he will have to make that decision on his own, but I am trying to create boundaries about two things - 1) not smoking around the kids and 2) not waking me up in the middle of the night when he gets up to have a cigarette. I have been less successful with the latter. It is 4:20AM now, and I have been awake since he woke me at 3AM while he turned on the lights in the hall, rummaged through drawers to find his lighter, and then went out the back door to smoke.
I am at the end of my rope. I'm exhausted and frustrated. I sleep-trained my kids so that we could all sleep better when I went back to work. And here I am awake in the middle of the night because my adult husband woke me up while my kids are sound asleep.
Any advice on how to deal with this? I have been asking him to be respectful of my sleep for over TEN YEARS, and it is still happening. (And if anyone has advice on a new way to talk to him about quitting smoking, I'm all ears for that one also...)