Sleep problem after taking away pacifier

Morvarid - posted on 10/11/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi,my 22 DD used to have pacifier to sleep and she would go to sleep by herself,but around 40 days ago I took that away from her " cold turkey ".since then we have to sleep her while sitting on the rocky chair and if she wakes up during the night ,she's gonna start crying and call us and specially her daddy. Her dr said to let her cry but I feel that gives her too much stress and I don't like to do that ,but we are frustrated of not sleeping at night .please help us if you have any experience .

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Chet - posted on 10/13/2014

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Your doctor is pretty old school. Plenty of other doctors will tell you not to worry about the pacifier until a child is 2 or 3, that she's likely to give it up on her own before 36 months, and that you should wean her off it instead of taking it cold turkey.

If giving it back won't help then it doesn't make sense to give it back, but good sleep is extremely important for healthy development. I would give a 22 month old toddler a pacifier if it would improve her sleep.

Pacifiers are only bad for teeth if they are used beyond the age of about 4. They are concerning in younger children (between the ages of 2 and 4) if they are used a lot during the day and get in the way of speech development and normal social interaction.

If you want to give the pacifier back to her, don't give it to her when she's crying and screaming. Give it to her, or leave it somewhere for her to find, when she isn't upset.

You will always be able to find pacifier horror stories on the internet. The truth is though, it is easier for a child to give up a pacifier when they are ready than to have one taken abruptly when they are not ready.

Morvarid - posted on 10/12/2014

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Her dr said to take it when she was 1 year old but I did it later which is now 22 month,and it is already around 1/5 month since then,it is much better now than the first 2 weeks , but still not comparable with before. My problem is that if I give it back after this long time would be even worse and later even harder to take away ( that is what I learned base on people experience in the internet ) that if you took it then don't give it back any more.now it is me who can't have a good sleep during the night +dd+daddy. Family trouble :( I am so scarred to give that back because :

1- she learn to cry and screen to get the result at the end
2- she lost it once now get more attach
3- really bad for her teeth
4- now she is used to sleep with us and give that back don't solve the problem and she take that back and still wants us to sleep her

Chet - posted on 10/12/2014

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I'd give the pacifier back. Most kids will give it up easily when they are ready.

Between the ages of two and three it's a good idea to start restricting pacifier use. You don't want constant pacifier use to get in the way of social interaction or speech development for example. But before 36 months many children will still have a strong urge to suck as a way to relax, and a pacifier for naps and bedtime is completely reasonable.

Michelle - posted on 10/12/2014

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Why did you take it away in the first place?
I had 2 of my 3 children that had dummy's (pacifiers) and I waited until they were ready to give them up. It saved a lot of sleepless nights. My daughter gave hers to the "dummy fairy" and has never asked for it again.

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