Sleep time in the day affect the night?

Laura - posted on 01/14/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi there,

This is my first post but I've been reading many if the posts for several weeks now.

I have an 8 1/2 week old healthy (thank God) baby boy. He's my second! I already have a 5 year son who is thankfully attending full time kindergarten. My little guy is all over the map with sleep except That he does do his best sleep at night. Meaning 3 maybe 4 hour stretch a tone time. I've been reading The happiest baby on the block. So it recommends wearing your baby in a sling which I have been doing all day since he was born. Now I'm trying to put him down in bassinet for naps and he will only do about 10 to 25 minutes max! It has been brutal trying to get him to go to sleep the last 2 nights. But that being said he did do 4 1/2 hours straight. Am I sleep depriving him in the day? But I can't wear him all day either. He's way too heavy! Ugh. Any suggestions to help wean him from the sling? Thanks!!!!

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Nicole - posted on 01/17/2014

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Hey Laura,
Your son sounds quite a bit like mine for his first 6.5 weeks. We did swaddle him mostly because he would punch himself in the face flailing his arms around. He wouldn't sleep for more than an hour or so at a time and night time sleep was intermittent at best. We were exhausted and frustrated, then one day during tummy time my husband was on the couch and I left the room, when I came back my little guy had passed out cold and remained sleeping solid for 4 hours. All literature and prenatal classes had said do not place your baby on their tummy to sleep only on their backs so we hadn't considered it. Well when nighttime hit and he lay on his back screaming, I turned him on his side to face me to figure out what to do next and he passed out with in seconds. This got me to thinking, I loathe sleeping on my back maybe being my kid he is the same. I'm sure the other moms and health care providers would come after me with their pitch forks and torches, but he has been sleeping on his tummy for the past month and its bliss. He slept for the first round last night for 6.5 hours, up for a snack and change, then back down for another 5hrs, so honestly I'm not complaining.
I've also found for those extra fussy days a shot of gripe water before bed is like hitting a sleeping reset button, its awesome.
Good luck.

Laura - posted on 01/16/2014

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Hi Nicole.
Thank you for such a detailed and thoughtful message. You are so lucky to have a good sleeper! Last night My guy slept from 1130 til 3 but woke about 3 times. It really is hard to get a decent block of sleep. I try to lay down in the day but just as I doze off he's up and ready to play

I know in my head that this doesn't last but right now I'm feeling overwhelmed!

I have been following his cues to make sure I meet his needs. I know I just need to be patient but I was hoping I could extend his night time sleep somehow. Do you swaddle your son?



Thanks again.
Laura;)

Nicole - posted on 01/15/2014

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Hey Laura,
My little guy had a busy day today. He was in bed about 830pm last night and slept until 230am. Then we were up to eat, change, burp and back to bed by 330. He was up again at 630, repeat process, but we got up and stayed up. We went out for a social play group, he dozed in the car on the way there and the way back. He had a quick 1hr nap (130-230pm) when we got home. Then he had another snooze from 4-5pm. Then by 645, feed, bath, change, feed, downstairs and he had passed out in my arms on our first lap around the bedroom by 730pm.
That being said, every day is different. I have to adapt and roll with the changes. What works for me may not work for you, what works for my little guy now may not work next week, what works for him may not work with the next.
Just as you and I differ our kids will differ too, your challenge is listening to your son and his needs, not necessarily what a book tells you (although excellent as references and guides) You have something that no book or I have, your own mothers intuition about your own son. You know what is best.
I hope that helps and if at all possible, you sleep when he sleeps even during the day. Naps are awesome.

Laura - posted on 01/14/2014

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Thank you Nicole! I had such a terrible time with my first who NEVER slept day or night that I vowed I would do whatever it takes this time!!

I will keep at the naps in the bassinet.

I have a couple questions for you if you don't mind:
How long and often does your son nap before the long one between 1-4?

Also how long can he stay awake from the last nap til bedtime?

My guy is all over the map with bedtime between 9 and 12 midnight! I know the 3 hour feed thing is normal but I read so mAny posts that say their 6 week old is sleeping for 8 hours straight!

Thanks very much!!!

Jodi - posted on 01/14/2014

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I'm sorry, is this your 8 1/2 week old who won't sleep longer than a 3 or 4 hour stretch at night? HE IS EIGHT AND A HALF WEEKS OLD!!!!! This is actually totally normal!!! They have little tummies and need to feed that frequently.

Nicole - posted on 01/14/2014

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Hi Laura,
My son is 10 weeks old now and sleeps great, I truly believe its because I DID NOT wear him but instead give him his independence straight off. We follow a loose routine and he naps constantly, but when he's awake he is alert, lively and ready to go. He sleeps at night for about 8-10hours with an hour break in between for a feed and change. I honestly found the loose routine extremely helpful. For example, he wakes up, he eats straight away every time, then he gets a diaper and outfit change with a song, then maybe some more food, then whatever we decide to do, tummy time, toy time, chair time, dancing, working out, and an outing of some sort. Mid afternoon between 1-4 a good 3 hr nap. At night, after dinner bath time every night helps a lot. bedtime between 8-10, every night. introduce cues for conditioning response. He knows when we go into my bedroom its long sleep time. Upstairs in his room during the day, short nap times.
He has a nap midmorning and mid afternoon in between we go outside for a walk, play, he eats and when he starts getting cranky because he's tired, I put him down in his bed for his sleep. NO BABY WEARING! Its for your own sanity.
My sister swears by baby wearing but she had almost 1.5 yrs of complete attachment where she couldn't put him down at all, even to use the washroom.
Hope this helps
Nicole

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