sleep training ??

Nibedita - posted on 11/03/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




hi.. i am a stay at home mom to a 4 month old baby. (FTM). it seems that recently he has been hit by what people say as "4 month sleep regression" where he naps only for 30-45 mins. ( he takes 4 naps). except the morning nap which is from 8/8.30 till 10.30/10:45 . I follow a bedtime routine and put him to sleep by 9.30. But he will get up after 45mins and start crying. I try to put him back to sleep by patting or by giving a paci. it is only after the last feed ( around 11./11.30) that he will sleep but then also it takes him more than half an hour to sleep. I have the following questions :
i) is it a common issue ?? any one also facing the same problem ?? how long does this last??
ii) is self soothing recommended during this stage ?? ( ppl say they cant at this age)
iii) shouldi start sleep training ?? if yes which is the best method??. is cry it out recommended at this age ???
iv) how long should i wait for him to self soothe and then intervene ??
please feel free to share your story/experienmce and how you all overcame it.

SORRY FOR THE LONG POST .. but i seriously want to deal with this issue .


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Michelle - posted on 11/04/2016




Nothing is "normal" at this age. Every child is different and you need to do what works for you.
I wouldn't be sleep training or doing CIO. At this age he is crying because he wants something. It could be as simple as just having you nearby.

Dove - posted on 11/03/2016




I don't know if he is breast or bottle fed (technically doesn't matter, but I only have experience nursing), but he sounds pretty normal to me. Some babies fall into a schedule fairly easily... some do not and trying to get them on a schedule can be a lot more trouble than it's worth.

Personally speaking... I had two that were easily on a 3 hour feeding schedule from birth and took fairly regular, good naps from early on.... and one that was never on a schedule, would sometimes nurse 3 times in the same hour, and was a catnapper until he was down to only one nap a day. But... one thing they all had in common was that I always nursed them to sleep if/when they woke.

I am not a fan of sleep training or CIO at any age.

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