sleeping problems

Gina - posted on 02/23/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




our son will br 1 year in march and still wont sleep thru the night. i havelet him cry it out several times... as long as 30 minutes and feel horrible and he still wont go back so sleep... help! any ideas?

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Nisa - posted on 06/13/2011




my 2 and a half year old still wakes up crying every hour looking for me.she refuses to sleep unless I sleep with her and hold her hand.we have tried comfort objects, she is not interested.she suffers from separation anxiety since young and I am a stay at home mom.I agree all babies are different.She shares a bed with me and my husband.I would like your opinion if she is just spoiled or is she just emotionally insecure?

Gwen - posted on 02/23/2010




I didn't use CIO, don't believe in it. My daughter was doing pretty well at age 1, but still not CONSISTENTLY sleep through the night. Around 19 months, it was like a switch was flipped and overnight she just got it! All babies are different. If CIO makes you feel horrible, then don't do it. We (as a society) seem to think infants should be independent little adults, and it's just not realistic. They depend on us.

Heidi - posted on 02/23/2010




Do you have a bedtime routine? I know that alot of people don't believe in this. Why don't you try putting him to bed with a bottle or sippy cup until he gets more comfortable falling asleep by himself.

Kimiko - posted on 02/23/2010




I've found following this routine works for my little guy. Sleeping, eating (after about 1 hour of being awake), playtime until he's ready to go to sleep again. My son is 9 months old and has been sleeping through the night for 8 hours since he was 2 months old and is now up to 11-12 hours since he was 6 months old. Hope this helps.

Shellie - posted on 02/23/2010




I have had to let 2 of my children "cry it out" is torcher for Mom! It was much longer than 30 min for several nights. While it felt like the worst thing I was doing, in the long run, it paid off. Also, take into consideration how long he naps. Maybe nap time needs to be shortened and he will be more tired at night.

Katrina - posted on 02/23/2010




Is he still getting up for a bottle? I know that we weaned our daughter off of the night time bottle, when she woke up we would calm her back to sleep and not give her one, if she calmed down of course. That seemed to help, we also eventually turned off the monitor we had in her room because it was just too hard to listen to her in there. Now she is almost 2 and in a toddler bed and she isn't always sleeping through the night, we just go in there now and let her know it is still bedtime give her a kiss and tuck her back in. Good luck, I know every child is different. I wish they came with instructions at times.

Renae - posted on 02/23/2010




Firstly, most babies cry for 45 minutes when you do CIO. The absolute minimum is 20 minutes and the max is 1 hour. If you are talking about control crying, then the average is 1 hour, the minimum 30 minutes and the max 4 hours.

But, you dont have to do CIO. You have several options. No-cry methods and crying methods. Crying methods are most effective, have higher success rates and work quickly. No cry methods are gentle and require some time and patience.

In general I recommend trying the more gentle options first as they usually work, and you probably will never have to use the harder options. This ofcourse depends on a bit on your situation though; how many times a night your baby wakes, how long he takes to go back to sleep, how sleep deprived you are, whether the sleep deprivation is affecting your baby's development etc. If your baby's development is being affected then sometimes going straight to CIO is warranted.

If you decide to try a crying method again, I recommend you use crying it out with cry interpretation. I am not an advocate of control crying or any method where you go in and check on them as each time you go into them, you must leave again, and when you leave they go through the initial distress of being left all over again and it makes the baby more and more distressed. If you use a crying method and leave him to figure out he is supposed to go to sleep and do some research on cry interpretation and listen to his cries so that you know if he needs you, you can cry it out without distressing your baby. This method is very effective and is usually not nearly as bad as mum's expected.

The no-cry method most commonly used by behaviourists and sleep consultants is gradual withdrawal. This is where you gradually withdraw the baby from needing your help to go to sleep. This has an 80% success rate and takes 2-4 weeks.

Another no-cry method is that of UK baby whisperer Tracey Hogg, called Pick-up/Put-down. She has a website with a support forum for people using the method.

There is lots of info out there if you google any of the above methods. You are also more than welcome to contact me for info or instructions on anything I have said (if I include it all this post will be too long). I will need to know how many times a night your baby is waking.

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