Sleeping through night

Emily - posted on 03/30/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I have a 13 month old son who will not sleep through the night and has always had a problem sleeping through the night. HELP

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Belinda - posted on 03/31/2011

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What time does he wake up in the morning and how long does he nap during the day?

At that age the average length a child should sleep at night is about 11 hours, he may be overtired. 1 thing that I noticed in his routine is that he watches tv before bed, I would recommend eliminating that or changing the timing to TV before bath time. TV is alerting - it is hard to settle down after watching TV, especially such a young child.



My next thought would be, instead of picking him up to rock him back to sleep, try to sit with him, maybe pat his back and use your voice to soothe him. If you decide to try this route it may take a while for him to get used to it so be consistent and don't stop after only a few days.



All in all it sounds like a great routine! By the way, self soothing is the child learns to calm themselves without your intervention, in this case it means that he can put himself to sleep back to sleep without help from you - after a good sleep routine. Cry it out is not the only method of teaching a child to self soothe. I thought about it a little more and maybe after his bath take him straight to his room and -as I said before - eliminate tv and anything that would get him too excited and active. You are relaxing and soothing him with his bath and lotion, his bath, and lotion, but then he is getting himself over active again. Why not give him his sippy while you read to him?



Hmm, this may be a little long and disjointed, but I hope that it helps! I really hope that he starts sleeping longer for you.

Pia - posted on 03/31/2011

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How many hours does he sleep in one go? Because 5 hours is considered sleeping through the night.
My son didn't sleep through until he was two...some babies just don't do it for a while.
Has he been taught how to self soothe??

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Emily, some babies just don't sleep when we want them too! The whole "sleeping through the night" thing is more a social, expectation than anything else. My oldest daughter didn't sleep through till shge went to school!

Belinda - posted on 04/02/2011

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Awesome! well done Emily, I know that it can be tough, I am glad that he is doing do much better.

Pia - posted on 04/01/2011

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I would skip the tv and toys and instead do something calming, like reading books. Belinda's suggestions are really good, but he may be one of those babies who just don't sleep though the night for ages!!
And also, I don't advocate crying it out as a method for self soothing...I'm very anti crying it out and controlled crying. Hope no one got the wrong idea:)

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Rebecca - posted on 04/03/2011

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Oh, boy do I understand you stress. My son is 27 months old and has never slept through the night. I have even taken him to the doctor to see why, and they can't figure it out. He only takes a two hour nap every day. He goes to bed between 8 and 9, and gets up around 8 or 9 in the morning. But he wakes up at least 3 times a night. It has been 2 1/2 years since I had a full nights sleep, I would love to know what to do as well.

Jamie - posted on 04/02/2011

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Did he spit up a lot when he was an infant? Or always seemed to be uncomfortable lying on his back? The reason I am asking is my son would scream when we laid him down. We found out that he had a bad case of acid reflux. Your son might have a mild case of it and that is why he wakes during the night. Hope this helps.

Emily - posted on 04/02/2011

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I would like to thank everyone for their responses and wanted to update all of you that Colton has been sleeping through the night for four days.

Emily - posted on 04/02/2011

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I agree with that Jennifer that is what I felt as well, and still feel this way and hate just letting my son cry himself to sleep.

Betsy - posted on 04/01/2011

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My first child was sleeping through the night when she was ten days old, my second, started sleeping through the night at 8 months old, he had colic and other health problems where he was in a lot of pain so i didn't force him to sleep through the night, my third slept through the night at a month, we always let them cry it out and sooth themselves, it's NOT barbaric, backwards or old fashioned, it will take about 3-5 nights of him screaming his head off, then you are done. Kids know very early on what they can get away with and will get away with it if you let them, it will not scar them emotionally, my kids are super happy independent little people. Emily I do feel your pain, and I hope thing's work out well for you, everyone needs sleep especially little ones lie yours, hang in there, you will be fine :)

Renee - posted on 04/01/2011

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O my daaughter is 11 months, and she hasnt slept through the night since she was born...so you are not alone ... Doc told me if she is tired she will sleep. if she is not then she will be up ( obviously is what I said to him) but he re assured me its perfectly normal, even if you have a routine, that he and my daughter will sleep through the night when they are done teething ( i dont buy that) but who knows maybe we will get lucky :--)

Katie - posted on 03/31/2011

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a bedtime routine is essential. Give him warning half an hour before bedtime, informing him all along what is going to happen next, warm bath with lavender ect, maybe a book and cuddles all along keeping up the warnings. I always went from 7 to 7..did a LOT of reasearch on this because of the way thier sleep pattens are, they wake up a certain times during the night..the trick is to get it right so that their last time of wake up it's still dark, so they fall back asleep, if they wake at 5 and it''s all sunshine..thats it they are up..lol. If he's in a bed and keeps coming out..u walk him calmly back in to his bed and tell him it's bedtime not looking at him at all, then the next time u just say bedtime walk him back and leave after that u don't pay any attention (sounds like fun hey?) just keep walking him back to bed...looong process and frustrating but does the job eventually, I find a glass of wine may help through this process..lol. If he's in a cot, u pop him down and let him go for five mins before u go in, u can roll him on his side so that he's not facing u and pat him with a bit of shhhh going on and when he settles leave..if he starts crying again..go back in again and roll him onto his side do it again..u just keep repeating the process..I prefer this type of controled crying because u are actaully able to stay with him when he's upset, and it really is important they learn to fall asleep by them selves. The thing to remember is that the crying will get worse before it gets better and u may want to cave, but in the end it's worth it. took my youngest 6 days, but he was easy after that. Good luck

Jennifer - posted on 03/31/2011

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Well from Hippie CA mom... i figure he doesn't understand the concept of "no" so maybe "self soothing" is a bit advanced...heheheh...

from my perspective... i have come across studies showing that babies who are forced to self-sooth by crying themselves to sleep, are more likely to develop problems connecting with others...

I think i'll just suffer through it, we try to get him some good exercise, some good proteins, a warm bath, and nurse to sleep. Sometimes it works, sometimes he wants to get up and read or listen to his musical toys...and it takes a bit longer to wind him down...if i'm really feeling good we"ll even dance for a bit...and sometimes i am ready to pull my hair out because i would rather do something else (like clean the kitchen, oh naughty mommy)... but they will only be this dependent for a little longer... One more year and i'll be tempted to put him in his crib for the 5 min of crying...we"ll see...

We co-sleep and he still wakes up in the middle of the night. Since it doesn't seem to be different from those that have their own bed in their own room, I figure it is less effort for me.

Emily - posted on 03/31/2011

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Well our sleep routine or bedtime routine is this we give him a bath between 7:30pm and 8:00 pm and then when he gets out he gets lotion that is supposed to help him sleep then diaper and baby powder then his onesie and jammies, then he comes downstairs has a sippy cup and watches tv or plays with toys til 845 when I take him upstairs and sit in his rocker with his pacifier and a book and I rocked him as I read but, he also had his baby blankey and teddy with him to sleep with when he would get sleepy I would put him to bed and out on his music and his night light and leave the room 20 minutes later he is back up and screaming so I would rock him and then when he would fall back asleep I would leave and he would wake up every five minutes after that until we had to get up the next morning, I guess he has been taught to self soothe I don't know.

Devina - posted on 03/30/2011

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did u hear abt the sleep sheep?my daughter had a lot of sleep problem..we got the sleep sheep and it works trust me..!

Krista - posted on 03/30/2011

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Hm...what is your usual bedtime routine? How do you have his room set up?

Jennifer - posted on 03/30/2011

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Welcome to the club! I figure he's done other things quicker and sleeping through the night just isn't his forte...haha...

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