sleepless nights

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Rusty - posted on 12/30/2014

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I'm a stay at home dad, which has turned into a stay at home grandpa, I have practically raised five grandkids over the last several years, which has turned me into a Stress Reduction Therapist, A Child Whisperer for Adults.
One day, I had to get up early the next morning, so, I went to bed around three in the afternoon, we had just put in new wood floors and noise would shoot down the hall way to my room. The grandkids are playing and very loud to the point I'm about to break with frustrations and straighten them out.
Instead, I thought to myself, they are going to be little only once, I want to hear them. So, I opened the door to let the sound in and the next thing I knew, it was the next day.
If, you have done all that you can do, fresh diaper, baby isn't hungry, and you have done everything known, then, its time to accept it. Your child will never remember the sleepless nights. So, you need to forget them to. Never talk about sleep at all or you will create an attachment which can lead to anxiety. Find new things to do throughout the day. Stay focused on each moment of the day. You might discover what is keeping you child up at night.
As for sleep, accept your child's crying as a form of talking for its the only communication they will have with you, until, they learn to talk. Opening door says that you are accepting the crying, sit on the edge of the bed, take a few deep slow breathes(deep breathing stimulates the Vagus nerve) and say, everything is fine, we will transition through this. Lay down in bed on your back with hands out beside you on the sheets, continuing with the breathing, move your hands around on the sheets to feel them, what does the air smell like in your room, what are the sounds in the room and outside, accept all of it as life, this will help take you focus off your child.
As you calm down, continue the breathing and focus on relaxing your feet, the back of your legs should start to feel heavy, your back should feel relax and your neck relaxing as your head settles into the pillow.
Its all about calming your mind. When you calm your mind, you will be able to calm your child's mind. During the day go for meditated walks. I work with children from time to time. At this time I'm working with a 15 month old and have thought him how to use his five senses. We touch everything when we go for walks, we smell everything and we explore new foods.
And this is good therapy for you too.

Rusty
A child Whisperer for Adults-stress reduction therapist

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