SM out of Control

Tonya - posted on 07/11/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a 7yr old that I share custody with his father. A few yrs ago his father married. It has been horrible ever since. This woman e-mailed me that she is my sons mother and does more for him than I ever could. Last week I picked up my son and asked how his day went? what did you do? He stated he ate ice cream and cake and soda. He is ADHD. This is only hurting my son. He also stated that the SM told him if he were pushed at school he should push back? These are the same people I have had restraining orders against. Any suggestions on how to handle this

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Tonya - posted on 07/11/2011

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@ Brittany, Sadly there is no communication. I have a court order protecting my address from them as I have had orders of protection against both of them for harrasment and the BD attacked my brother in front of the kids. If I e-mail anything it always comes back to what a horrible mother I am and that I don't even bathe my 7yr old. No I don't bathe him he is old enough to do it himself. Of course this is coming from the people who told me my son would be safer in the bath cause he could drown in the shower.

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Britt - posted on 07/11/2011

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What is OP?
Im in the midst of getting a restraining order, BD has harassed me while i had the 2 kids during my summer visitation. then stalked me to one of our childs dentist appt. and SM was waiting out in the parking lot, im from a differ city so its 30 minutes away from my hometown, i believe with what BD has been doing upon me to get a protective order. im constantly looking over my shoulder while i leave my house to see if he is around -:(

Britt - posted on 07/11/2011

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I dont know I stay in the bathroom while my DS around your DS' s age is in the shower i may go put laundry away real fast but still Im tryingto watch my water bill! lol

Tonya - posted on 07/11/2011

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They all shower or take a bath every night. I just don't do it for them. The SM expects that I should sit in there while he is in the shower or bath. He leaves the door open so that I can hear if he needs anything.
As for the harrasment yes there has been new stuff. I am told I am too naive in hoping they will change. I guess I just hope they will grow up and do what is best for the CH. That is why I haven't gone to get another OP

Britt - posted on 07/11/2011

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As far as showers go I always make sure ALL of my children take a bath, I have 4 altogther. 2 SK's (they are with BM for the 2nd half of summer) and 2 bio's from BD .....
every nite i start the shower and sit on the toilet reading a magazine if they need help they tell me, its usually a 5 minute shower . i dont mind taking 5 minutes to make sure they are cleaned.

As far as restraining orders, did he make threats to you recently did you report it for harassment?

Britt - posted on 07/11/2011

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oh wow sorry to hear, i dont know much about the diet of ADHD kids- but my 2 kids are ADHD and are are meds. I feel that they dont get loved and nurtured and can pay attention - their middle school has let me know of some concerns going on at BD s house and his GF of the past 4 yrs they have been together.
she is way harsh to my 2 kids and not her own children. My children tell me stories about BDs violent temper behavior.

Can you simply bring it up to BD and SM? Or how is the communicating between you and BD?

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